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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 643274" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>One thing that probably isn't helping is the relationship I have with my family. Very similar to what Lil had with her parents. Last summer when he had us at our wits end, I called mom and dad and they came running. That's what (and I hate to use this phrase) normal parents do. When their child needs help they give it. At first he thought I had called them to gang up on him but I needed their support. We've told him that if he needs us to call, so he tends to call with every minor little glitch.</p><p></p><p>I've tried to get him to understand that the reason my parents will come running when I call is that they know I'm at my wits end. They know I've tried everything I can think of to fix the problem.....because they trust me. Our difficult child will call with every minor little problem, I need a ride, I'm hungry, people at the shelter are being mean to me, yada, yada, yada. He hasn't figured out that I won't come running because, at this point, I don't trust him to have tried everything he can think of to fix the problem. Funny thing about this is that he really did have people at the shelter picking on him. Kept calling him a mama's boy because he calls her every time he has a problem. So what does he do after being teased about this??? He calls mom to complain about it!</p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes he can. We just need to let him! He has to figure out the difference between needs and wants because right now he sees EVERYTHING he wants as a need. Then he needs to figure out how to get them without constantly asking for mom and dad's help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 643274, member: 18238"] One thing that probably isn't helping is the relationship I have with my family. Very similar to what Lil had with her parents. Last summer when he had us at our wits end, I called mom and dad and they came running. That's what (and I hate to use this phrase) normal parents do. When their child needs help they give it. At first he thought I had called them to gang up on him but I needed their support. We've told him that if he needs us to call, so he tends to call with every minor little glitch. I've tried to get him to understand that the reason my parents will come running when I call is that they know I'm at my wits end. They know I've tried everything I can think of to fix the problem.....because they trust me. Our difficult child will call with every minor little problem, I need a ride, I'm hungry, people at the shelter are being mean to me, yada, yada, yada. He hasn't figured out that I won't come running because, at this point, I don't trust him to have tried everything he can think of to fix the problem. Funny thing about this is that he really did have people at the shelter picking on him. Kept calling him a mama's boy because he calls her every time he has a problem. So what does he do after being teased about this??? He calls mom to complain about it! Yes he can. We just need to let him! He has to figure out the difference between needs and wants because right now he sees EVERYTHING he wants as a need. Then he needs to figure out how to get them without constantly asking for mom and dad's help. [/QUOTE]
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