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He's been kicked out of the shelter
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 643398" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Ah, Lil, sorry I didn't mean to hurt your feelings, only meant for you to revise what you have been through and see that it is illogical for you to even think that he should come home. Sense out of nonsense, K? I think you wanting to bring him home for a while is <em>your</em> solution because he has no solution for this box he has created for himself so good ole mom, out of desperation, is willing to say, sigh, I guess we will have to take him back for a while. What message would that be sending to difficult child son? The one he is already preparing himself for- if I screw things up bad enough I'll just go home to mom's. AND THEN, trust me on this, he is going to steal from you again. </p><p>Remember I told you IF HE DID get kicked out of the shelter and you said he wouldn't, that it would not happen before his 30 days were up and then of course IT DID HAPPEN. So I can almost guarantee if he moves back in with you he will steal from you/Jabber.</p><p>You are stuck with a difficult child and on your part the game is UN-winnable. See the thing is, it is like a carnival game, you don't see the slights of hands, the tricks, they use to make sure they win and you don't. Give up the control - stand with your husband and take your hands off the controls, because you are never going have a normal life trying to run the life of a difficult child. Let you son figure out where he is going if he screws up again. That's right, even you have said he is a smart young man LET HIM FIGURE IT OUT! You have already made your choice - he is out because he steals. Does that mean he is out because he steals or only until he screws up somewhere else (which he also did with the 9K you spent on college)</p><p>I hate to say I told you so, but in this case I think you need to hear it. He treated the homeless shelter like it was a summer camp. He does not believe it at all that you will not let him back in your house. And by what you are posting, in a way, you are agreeing with him. </p><p>These things are I post are not meant to hurt your feelings but darn it Lil, to get through to you what you are unwilling to hear. He is what he is, and he does as he pleases, the same as all of us. Only in this case part of what he does is lie and steal. Which is unacceptable to you and your husband (and dis-respectful and ungrateful in my humble opinion) Allowing him to come home again would be like saying go ahead and steal from us again. </p><p>That is why I was being sarcastic (funny) and also why you couldn't see it, you are really not prepared to accept an answer that means you have no say in what happens to him, that he is truly on his own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 643398, member: 18366"] Ah, Lil, sorry I didn't mean to hurt your feelings, only meant for you to revise what you have been through and see that it is illogical for you to even think that he should come home. Sense out of nonsense, K? I think you wanting to bring him home for a while is [I]your[/I] solution because he has no solution for this box he has created for himself so good ole mom, out of desperation, is willing to say, sigh, I guess we will have to take him back for a while. What message would that be sending to difficult child son? The one he is already preparing himself for- if I screw things up bad enough I'll just go home to mom's. AND THEN, trust me on this, he is going to steal from you again. Remember I told you IF HE DID get kicked out of the shelter and you said he wouldn't, that it would not happen before his 30 days were up and then of course IT DID HAPPEN. So I can almost guarantee if he moves back in with you he will steal from you/Jabber. You are stuck with a difficult child and on your part the game is UN-winnable. See the thing is, it is like a carnival game, you don't see the slights of hands, the tricks, they use to make sure they win and you don't. Give up the control - stand with your husband and take your hands off the controls, because you are never going have a normal life trying to run the life of a difficult child. Let you son figure out where he is going if he screws up again. That's right, even you have said he is a smart young man LET HIM FIGURE IT OUT! You have already made your choice - he is out because he steals. Does that mean he is out because he steals or only until he screws up somewhere else (which he also did with the 9K you spent on college) I hate to say I told you so, but in this case I think you need to hear it. He treated the homeless shelter like it was a summer camp. He does not believe it at all that you will not let him back in your house. And by what you are posting, in a way, you are agreeing with him. These things are I post are not meant to hurt your feelings but darn it Lil, to get through to you what you are unwilling to hear. He is what he is, and he does as he pleases, the same as all of us. Only in this case part of what he does is lie and steal. Which is unacceptable to you and your husband (and dis-respectful and ungrateful in my humble opinion) Allowing him to come home again would be like saying go ahead and steal from us again. That is why I was being sarcastic (funny) and also why you couldn't see it, you are really not prepared to accept an answer that means you have no say in what happens to him, that he is truly on his own. [/QUOTE]
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