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He's been kicked out of the shelter
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 643534" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Lil, you don't have to convince any of us that what you're doing is the right choice for you, you and Jabber are the ones who have to live with yourselves. I think many of us make the same kinds of opportunities available to our kids on whatever level we can and that feels right to us. Remember, there is no right way or wrong way, only what you can live with. And, if it goes south, well, then you make another choice at that time. We can't judge you for doing what you feel is best for your child.</p><p></p><p>There are a lot of stories here where the parents helped against all odds and lo and behold, the kids got with the program. And, there are an equal amount who ended up holding the bag and even more angry and with emptier pockets. It is what it is. In one year, I gave my daughter close to 10 grand, and her life didn't change <em>one little bit.</em> However, that was a big wake up call for me, and yes it cost me 10 grand, but at that point I knew I had done all I was willing to do. That's the point we usually have to get to, to the point where we feel in our hearts that we have done everything we possibly can to help and then we're done. We all reach that at different times in various ways.</p><p></p><p>Your son is still young. He is immature and is learning the ropes of adulthood as you let go........he may pull it out of the hat, I hope he does. If he doesn't, well, you'll be the first to know and you can handle it then. You discussed this as a family and you're all on board with it. It's an experiment. I hope it is a successful one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 643534, member: 13542"] Lil, you don't have to convince any of us that what you're doing is the right choice for you, you and Jabber are the ones who have to live with yourselves. I think many of us make the same kinds of opportunities available to our kids on whatever level we can and that feels right to us. Remember, there is no right way or wrong way, only what you can live with. And, if it goes south, well, then you make another choice at that time. We can't judge you for doing what you feel is best for your child. There are a lot of stories here where the parents helped against all odds and lo and behold, the kids got with the program. And, there are an equal amount who ended up holding the bag and even more angry and with emptier pockets. It is what it is. In one year, I gave my daughter close to 10 grand, and her life didn't change [I]one little bit.[/I] However, that was a big wake up call for me, and yes it cost me 10 grand, but at that point I knew I had done all I was willing to do. That's the point we usually have to get to, to the point where we feel in our hearts that we have done everything we possibly can to help and then we're done. We all reach that at different times in various ways. Your son is still young. He is immature and is learning the ropes of adulthood as you let go........he may pull it out of the hat, I hope he does. If he doesn't, well, you'll be the first to know and you can handle it then. You discussed this as a family and you're all on board with it. It's an experiment. I hope it is a successful one. [/QUOTE]
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