It's not all three J's. 
J-2 lives with his grandparents, J-3 lives with his girlfriend and has worked full-time for a while now.
We told him yesterday, "J-1 is using you. We're worried that he moves in and eats YOUR food and uses YOUR phone and runs up YOUR electric bill so you can't afford it and then YOU are the one out of money." One breath he says he hates him...the next he says, but "J-1 will go ballistic if he can't stay with me." Telling him to man up doesn't do much.
But you know, if he pays the bills I don't even care right now.
