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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 643879" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Lil, now that I'm getting a little distance on handling things for my difficult child, I find myself worrying WAY TOO MUCH about handling things for yours lol.</p><p></p><p>I have to admit, I'm getting too emotionally involved in this one, so if I bow out for awhile on this thread, it's because I am struggling with my own letting go issues!</p><p></p><p>I just wonder if he isn't getting mixed messages -- that he sees this as you saying you want him to man up and be independent, then you showing him in your actions that you don't think he's capable of it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Or you could let him get soaked, like you did, and assume that he can handle walking in a hard rain and the aftermath.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Or you could assume that at his age he will know to bundle up and walk fast when it's cold outside.</p><p></p><p>I dunno, Lil...I just wonder if things wouldn't be better for everybody if you just took a big step back for awhile and let him live and learn.</p><p></p><p>I am probably out of line for saying that, and Lord knows I don't have much to brag about if one looks at the results of my parenting. But I think of you and the other regulars on here as dear friends, so I felt like I had to put this out there. This is said with gentle hugs and loving concern for you, Jabber, and difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 643879, member: 17720"] Lil, now that I'm getting a little distance on handling things for my difficult child, I find myself worrying WAY TOO MUCH about handling things for yours lol. I have to admit, I'm getting too emotionally involved in this one, so if I bow out for awhile on this thread, it's because I am struggling with my own letting go issues! I just wonder if he isn't getting mixed messages -- that he sees this as you saying you want him to man up and be independent, then you showing him in your actions that you don't think he's capable of it. Or you could let him get soaked, like you did, and assume that he can handle walking in a hard rain and the aftermath. Or you could assume that at his age he will know to bundle up and walk fast when it's cold outside. I dunno, Lil...I just wonder if things wouldn't be better for everybody if you just took a big step back for awhile and let him live and learn. I am probably out of line for saying that, and Lord knows I don't have much to brag about if one looks at the results of my parenting. But I think of you and the other regulars on here as dear friends, so I felt like I had to put this out there. This is said with gentle hugs and loving concern for you, Jabber, and difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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