All that being said, Lil, if you still can't yet help yourself from supporting in that way, what do you think about this possible slight shift: instead of reminding him to save his last paycheck in January so he can pay his rent in February, asking him "so what do you think you need to do in January to make sure you can pay February's rent?" Not that he has to have an answer right away, but puts HIS question/problem in HIS mind and lets HIM figure it out. If he wants suggestions or ideas, he can ASK you for advice. Otherwise, you give him the vote of confidence and allows him to develop his own problem solving skills.
Just a thought, based on my own experience in this nightmare we find ourselves in. Hope I haven't exceeded my "advice allotment" for the day, lol.
