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Message: <blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 659164" data-attributes="member: 1550">They are.but the wonder of the entire truth boggles my mind, from "I couldn't hold you. You, the infant, didn't want me to" to the chocolate milk in a bottle until age five, to the crazy way of living...no boundaries, no rules, no respect for anyone or anything, for the screaming of my parents, the baiting of my mother, her eternal phone call tot her own mother who she often tormented and I know because my grandmother would call me almost in tears, to my uncle who called me "the brat" and was allowed to and on and on and on. My FOO was like a horror movie.I have always called them the loonybin.Perhaps I was the only one who saw how bad it really was, even while the others were suffering with their own emotional problems, eating disorders, cutting maybe? (I have no evidence of this, just a feeling), lack of ability to get intimate with others (this is true of both of the others)...they can not see that this is all due to our caregiver, and that was our mother. Our father was not there. That may have figured in a bit too, but my mother didn't drive, never went anywhere, never had any friends, she was the domineering influence almost like a single parent. Sure, it was hard for her. Raising kids is hard. Many do it alone without being abusive. And lazy. Soooooooooooo lazy.Meanwhile my grandmother was playing sick games with my mother. I would run to grandma's house. She would not tell my mother I was there. Once I was gone for five days. I was sure she told her, but she calims she did not know. Do I believe it? It seems far-fetched. Wouldn't she have called the cops if a minor child had run away and she didn't know where she was? She either didn't care enough to try to find me or she lied to me.This was my crazy life.I am amazed, often so shocked, when I look around at my peaceful surroundings and my contented grown child who is home this summer and think it's a miracle that I did not repeat it, that my life has been so good since I married my husband and entered heavy-duty therapy. And it is good.I healed better than the others. I believe it's because they remained engaged and never confronted or admitted who caused their problems.Don't blame me for her.F you, FOO <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile    :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />.I am the one with the happy family. In a few days, my husband and I will have been married twenty years. There are so many good memories. Our kids agree...they had a good life.Living well is the best revenge.</blockquote>

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