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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 659173" data-attributes="member: 1550">YES!!!!I finally solved the mystery of my labeling myself borderline, while my therapists looked puzzled and said &quot;no.&quot; It is in the book about Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. And&nbsp; I quote:&quot;I have worked with several clients who were unfairly labeled borderline by THEMSELVES (as in I did it) or others. I could however tell that they were not (as in my therapists said I was not). This was evidenced by their essential kindness and goodwill to others which they always return to when the flashback resolves. They also exhibit t his in their ability to feel and show true remorse when they hurt another, as we are all destined to do from time to time. Unlike the true borderline who has a narcissistic core, they sincerely apologize and make amends when appropriate.(And I tend to apologize to everyone when I have nothing to apologize for or often have no idea what I'm apologizing for. And I do have tremendous remorse when I do something I know is wrong...I beat myself up over it, in fact...and have a ton of empathy. Maybe too much.)Sorry, guys. This was HUGE in my healing. I did not understand why I had diagnosed myself with borderline and insisted on it. Trauma symptoms do seem like borderline traits sometimes, however, yeah, I have always been far too compassionate and other-centered to have made sense as a borderline. I am working on this CPSTD with my new therapist. My old therapist, who I still see, had also mentioned trauma symptoms.Thank you for reading this, if you did. It made my night, explained so much, and validated me in so many ways. I am on that road to healing completely, but never could have been going in that direction without the help of this thread. I am grateful. Very.I suggest you two also read up on complex post traumatic stress disorder. You may see yourselves and there are ways to help this problem.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 659173, member: 1550"] YES!!!! I finally solved the mystery of my labeling myself borderline, while my therapists looked puzzled and said "no." It is in the book about Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. And I quote: "I have worked with several clients who were unfairly labeled borderline by THEMSELVES (as in I did it) or others. I could however tell that they were not (as in my therapists said I was not). This was evidenced by their essential kindness and goodwill to others which they always return to when the flashback resolves. They also exhibit t his in their ability to feel and show true remorse when they hurt another, as we are all destined to do from time to time. Unlike the true borderline who has a narcissistic core, they sincerely apologize and make amends when appropriate. (And I tend to apologize to everyone when I have nothing to apologize for or often have no idea what I'm apologizing for. And I do have tremendous remorse when I do something I know is wrong...I beat myself up over it, in fact...and have a ton of empathy. Maybe too much.) Sorry, guys. This was HUGE in my healing. I did not understand why I had diagnosed myself with borderline and insisted on it. Trauma symptoms do seem like borderline traits sometimes, however, yeah, I have always been far too compassionate and other-centered to have made sense as a borderline. I am working on this CPSTD with my new therapist. My old therapist, who I still see, had also mentioned trauma symptoms. Thank you for reading this, if you did. It made my night, explained so much, and validated me in so many ways. I am on that road to healing completely, but never could have been going in that direction without the help of this thread. I am grateful. Very. I suggest you two also read up on complex post traumatic stress disorder. You may see yourselves and there are ways to help this problem. [/QUOTE]

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