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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 659242" data-attributes="member: 18958">But, SWOT, he is not calling me and his phone is turned off. I don't know where to find him, because he wouldn't give me the address he was staying at.I never said No Contact. I said if you keep disrespecting me, I will think about putting a block on the phone.I don't even know how.  I just wanted him to stop being so mean to me. And I felt I had no defenses against what he was saying.I adore him. I know he knows that.But he does interpret limits, sometimes, as you don't love me anymore.And I did put up walls that were not there before. That is true.I defended myself. And perhaps I got confused. I may have forgotten for a second that he was my son, and thought he was my father. I know this is confusing. I am confused too.This is not rational or purposeful SWOT.But the thing is, a lot of the way he was living I did not like. I did not rub it in his face. For a long time he acted badly to us.  And we had a hard time deciding what to do.  For too long our boundaries were not clear.  And then it was hard to figure everything out.Never. I never thought about it. Never wanted it. Never ever. But my son may have gone no contact with me.  That is my fear.What if he is doing what I did with my mother? That is, when she hurt me, I would stay away for years and years.  And that is my punishment.  Please G-d. Let it not be this. I do not deserve no contact just because I said don't make fun of my father abusing me. That would be too cruel.Here is the urban sophisticate neighborhood my sister lives in (from neighborhoodscout.com). It makes me sick:If you come to know the people here, you will recognize that you're in the company of one of the wealthiest communities in the nation. In fact, a mere 3.6% of America's neighborhoods are wealthier than the xxxx neighborhood. Real estate here is exceedingly well-maintained, and similarly, tends to maintain its value over time. The cars driven are mostly luxury brands like Mercedes, Audi, BMW, and Lexus. If the public schools aren't up to snuff, the residents of this neighborhood preferentially send their children to private preparatory schools. Vacation to Disney? Yes, but equally popular are summers in Europe. As one would expect in a considerably wealthy neighborhood such as this, xxxxx also has one of the lowest ratings of child poverty in the nation.In addition, if you're a regular supporter of the arts and enjoy outings to the theatre, weekend boutique-ing, or even a finely aged wine with dinner, than you're in good company with the people of the xxxx neighborhood. This neighborhood is uniquely immersed with more "urban sophisticates" than 99.8% of neighborhoods across the country. The people here truly stand out as a class among their own. They are an exclusive community characterized by refined tastes, cultural inclinations, and the means to live well. Urban sophisticates live a big city lifestyle, whether or not they live in or near a big city. They are educated executives or managers by week, and serial patrons of the arts by weekend.Yuuccck</blockquote>

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