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Message: <blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 659247" data-attributes="member: 1550">It is always good to take an honest look at who those who are mean to us are.Without naming names, somebody I know threatened to divorce her husband if he didn't built her a bigger, grander house than she already had. It was not as nice as your sister's and frankly they did not have enough money to  build the new house, but he obviously didn't want her to leave him (although she claims he didn't love her) and he asked his wealthy father to help them pay the mortgage on this new and fancy and unnecessary material item this person wanted to have for no reason other than to show off. She claimed it was so her kids would feel good about their house, but it was really a throwback or an emotional reaction to her past. SHE had been embarassed at OUR home, which I described, and she was going to make sure she had this nice house in this upper class area that they couldnh't afford even with two salaries.She left him anyway.To look for somebody she REALLY loved because they never really loved each other.And now she has spent FIVE YEARS with somebody and REALLY learned the meaning of not being loved or even treated with respect. And he will never buy her that house or even let her move into his with him. Such irony.That her ex  got the money from his father for her demand tells me he DID love her and she is cheating. She is and was cheating herself to make the divorce seem ok. I have no doubt she didn't ever love him. She never loved anyone really. But he did love her, don't you think?SWOT, you crave what she has because she is mean to you. If that doesn't make sense to you, think again.I did not give the things power when they baited me with the borderline, which I started so I do admit it was great fodder for both of them to diagnose me with it. In fact, T2 said I was diagnosed with it. Um, only by me. And her. But it wasn't to give her power that got me in a tizzy. It is how she makes things up and then meanly throws them at me. I've done it to her too. We have no business talking to one another again ever. We are toxic to one another. I feel I am the nicer toxic one...lol. But she is downright mean when she is angry and Id on't want to be that way anymore and she has no power over me anymore. I know nothing of what she is up too and it feels great.lMaybe you should consider total oblivion with your sister. It is different from NC. It means no cheating by checking FB, Zillow, delete any e-mails, tear up mailed letters, even holidlay cards. They are meant to guilt you out, not to be nice. Don't get me wrong. Thing 2 can be nice. She can be charming. "There was a little girl, who had a little curl, right in the middle of her forehead. And  when she was good, she was very, very good. But when she was mean, she was horrid."Now, to me, she is an atom. As Thing 1 used to say...a molecule.</blockquote>

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