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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 659494" data-attributes="member: 18958">I have been thinking about how this woman in the news Rachel Dolezal reminds me of my sister, but could not put my finger on it.She is the one who was President of Spokane NAACP who was exposed as white by her parents, while claiming to be Black.The curious thing about her is that she insists she is Black and calls everybody else liars and is now saying that she may not be the child of her white parents because since it was a home birth, there were no medical personnel that can corroborate she is issue of her mother's body. So the more she is exposed the more she digs in.And anyway, as far as she is concerned race is a social construction and she can claim to be whoever she wants to be.And even that she sued Howard University for discriminating against her as a white woman, does not matter at all.  If she says she is Black she is. And she is a better Black than anybody else. And sets herself up as such. In positions of authority, and power and legitimacy.And she has set herself up, apparently, to judge others as sufficiently black or not enough black...or good enough to be black and still believes herself to be entitled to do so.And she is the victim. Because she has decided she is.So, I am thinking that OK, that sounds like my sister.So her parents exposed her. And at first they seemed mean-spirited to do so.But it turns out they were approached by the press, and straight out were asked.And it turns out there is more to the story.Apparently, Rachel had wanted to adopt her 16 year old Black adoptive brother so that he could leave the custody of the white parents. And her older white brother, 39, a professor, did not support her petition when she asked him to do so. And she had wanted his support, against the parents.So Rachel, according to the family, turned against him and formed an alliance with an attachment disordered adoptive sibling, and denounced the older brother as having molested the adoptive sister repeatedly years ago.And as a result he lost custody of his 1 year old child and is in court proceedings for child abuse charges. Which the parents say did not occur.I am in no position what so ever to say one thing about Rachel Dolezal, whether her sister or her parents, her brother or she, is victim or perpetrator.But, I am wondering why this all seems to so resemble my sister.  And where I have heard a similar story.And then I remember. My sister divorced her third husband, the one with all the money. But before she left him taking the children, she somehow suggested that his parents' home (*in a luxury community) be put in her and her husband's names.  And because he must be a true idiot, he persuaded his parents to do so.So with that, my sister was entitled not just to half of the community assets *to which she had brought nothing to the table, but to half of the value of her in laws' house, too.And that was the beginning of my Mother's fear of my sister. But she could not really face the truth of it, and tried then to talk to my sister about it. And my sister ridiculed her, and told her "any time I want to I can take your house." And my mother was afraid.What my sister had tried to convey to my mother is that if she wanted to take her house she could and she would. That she had not done so, yet, to my sister, was supposed to be reassuring.I mean, is she so impaired that she did not see that her need to bully was so strong, that it overpowered her need to be self-protective and that she had in fact revealed her intention instead of denying it?Greatly augmenting the marital assets to be divided by adding her in laws' home was not enough for my sister.She did not want to share custody of the kids with her husband. So during the child custody evaluation she denounced her husband for child abuse, and she denounced him for throwing the dog against the wall, too. Repeatedly. It could all be true, except nobody had ever heard these stories before.And she wanted me to help her write up the essay for the courts, and I did help her. Except I did mention to her that it might look questionable that she first brought up these allegations, during a custody evaluation, when she had secondary gain, rather than when she had left or before, and that she needed to address that in her account.Because my sister had left the husband for another man.  My Mother much later told me that secret, by accident.  Right before she died she had become addled. Until then nobody kept a secret as well as did my Mother.So my sister wanted to leave the marriage with as much power and control and money as she could get.And she did not care one bit, how she did it. And she felt completely, completely entitled to do so. Without batting one eyelash. Not one.So I figured out why Rachel Dolezal reminds of my sister. But sort of wish that the degree of their similarity had eluded me.I am very seriously considering going "oblivion" with my sister.I think we all have the picture. I mean, what more can I say after this?</blockquote>

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