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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 659933" data-attributes="member: 18958">Hi Everybody, especially Cedar, SWOT, and ICI moved this over from that other thread.OK I checked airfares and for all of us (2 dogs and 1 cat and 2 humans) to fly looks like the same price as driving, factoring in the cost of restaurants, motels and gas. I almost rear-ended somebody today so the idea that I can drive cross country is not looking that realistic.  I would prefer driving but there is nobody to do it.I am feeling old so I checked the area where I want to go in terms of desirability for the elderly.  Looking long-term. It is #2 nationally. Where I am is around #250 or #300 nationally. Like 50 percent of the people don't even have cars.M is completely behind the idea. He can't wait, actually. He is so despairing about what is happening with his family. I told you about the evil sister talking his father into signing a power of attorney so she could take the house.He is already thinking of what I should do with the property here, after we have established that we like the new area. I panicked.  I do not want to leave my house altogether. Even if there is nothing here, I love my house.Pretty soon I will start trying to train the two dogs to go to the bathroom on a schedule. Echo wrote that she lives in a big city and she takes them on walks 2x to 3x a day. Our dogs can go out whenever they ask, so that is something we need to anticipate.I am catching up on medical stuff which I let go for the past few years.I am trying to get the house organized, because I still am working on consolidating my mother's things. That's a lot, I think. For one day.I am beginning to think it will be a reality. There is a place on AIRBNB which is in a good area and will allow the pets, where we can stay up to one month while we look for a place. The drawback is that it is a studio, but it is across from a giant park and here is a yard. I haven't asked if we can use the yard, but I assume so, and will check it out. Better than a motel, I think.We have stayed in motels with 1 dog and 1 cat. It was not fun. That is my progress report. If everyday I do some, we will be able to leave by Oct 1, I think. That is the earliest point that the studio is available.Thank you for asking.I had Public Radio on while I was doing my errands today. There were programs on the rights of parents to reject vaccinations and also a short discussion about legalizing right to life injections here in my State.The right to have a humane way to die is opposed by many disability rights organizations on the basis that pressures to keep costs down might lead people to euthanize the elderly and disabled.We were under a great deal of pressure to let my mother go at the end. I had never been through a dying process before.  I felt that as long as there were medical interventions that could reverse my mother's condition, and she could express that she wanted to live, that I could not deny her treatment that might prolong her life.To have done so felt as if I was deciding life or death, which I at the time, thought was wrong.But, of course, she did die.  I think about it a lot, if knowing she would die, I would have chosen differently.  I do not think so.Until the hours right before my mother died, my mother lived fully.  I guess there is my answer. I would not have chose differently. Even if I had known the outcome. She died on hospice, but only 24 hours into the process. And I requested all of the morphine she would have needed, when it became clear to me that the dying process had begun. How personal is dying, for the individual and family. It is a shame, that there is not more ritual or support in our society to honor this process.  If I had a different temperament, perhaps I would want to do work in this area.  I am not equipped, I do not think. But it is a thought.Thank you again.PS I am now going to write a little bit about vaccinations. In my state there is a battle going between parents' rights to decide about vaccinations and public health and patients' rights groups representing the public interest, the elderly, ill and infants who cannot be vaccinated and thus are vulnerable if parents do not vaccinate their children.  I find the both of these medical ethical questions fascinating and I find myself to be inconsistent in terms of where I stand. With vaccinations I think I stand to protect the general public and not the individual right. With right to die, I am against that.  I would never have believed I would take that position, but I do. Dolores Huerta, the organizer who worked with Cesar Chavez is a proponent of what they call, dying with dignity. And one of the benefits they site is economic, that the economic burden of illness presents a burden on families. That frightens me.  On the other hand, I do believe in death with dignity. But if it is a family member that is deciding for me, I do not think it is dignified, to be killed off. What do you all think?</blockquote>

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