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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 660003" data-attributes="member: 18958">How courageous of you SWOT for you to post your truth. I have those hurts too that fill me with shame, still. The thing that comes to mind, now, is about my sister. My mother remarried my stepfather when I was 11 and my sister 6 or so.&nbsp; Until my sister entered puberty she walked around the house completely naked.&nbsp; Nobody else did.&nbsp; My mother never stopped it.&nbsp; The thing is, she did not do this when she was younger, when we lived alone or in the year or two after my mother married, as I remembered. It seemed as if it started deliberately.&nbsp; My sister got her power from her relationship from my stepfather and was protected by him and by my mother.Honestly, thinking about why a prepubescent girl would begin walking around naked, be so out of touch that she would do so, and not be stopped by her mother stuns me, still.My sister was a late bed wetter and I remember this was a central topic in the household, because it created extra work for my mother. I feel she must have been shamed.My sister never has mentioned any hint to me that she was abused....How sad. That's all I can say. And especially sad that we became enemies instead of allies. Thank you, SWOTPS These family words and phrases about going to the bathroom are really lighting rods for shame. I remember that same shame around my paternal grandmother. What a cruel, cruel lady.COPA</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 660003, member: 18958"] How courageous of you SWOT for you to post your truth. I have those hurts too that fill me with shame, still. The thing that comes to mind, now, is about my sister. My mother remarried my stepfather when I was 11 and my sister 6 or so. Until my sister entered puberty she walked around the house completely naked. Nobody else did. My mother never stopped it. The thing is, she did not do this when she was younger, when we lived alone or in the year or two after my mother married, as I remembered. It seemed as if it started deliberately. My sister got her power from her relationship from my stepfather and was protected by him and by my mother. Honestly, thinking about why a prepubescent girl would begin walking around naked, be so out of touch that she would do so, and not be stopped by her mother stuns me, still. My sister was a late bed wetter and I remember this was a central topic in the household, because it created extra work for my mother. I feel she must have been shamed. My sister never has mentioned any hint to me that she was abused.... How sad. That's all I can say. And especially sad that we became enemies instead of allies. Thank you, SWOT PS These family words and phrases about going to the bathroom are really lighting rods for shame. I remember that same shame around my paternal grandmother. What a cruel, cruel lady. COPA [/QUOTE]

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