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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 660064" data-attributes="member: 1550">She hated every boy I ever went out with EXCEPT for one that I never really liked but went out with simply because I didn't think anyone else would ever ask me out and I felt I needed to have a boyfriend. This mattered a lot to my mother, which was the cause of her long hair mania. &quot;BOYS LIKE LONG HAIR!&quot;Once I went out with a gentile boy who was a carpenter, and he made a good living. Immediately she picked on him for not being Jewish and repeated her sick mantra to me that non-Jews all beat their wives and drink too much. I believe my sister was spared this silliness, but I wasn't. I didn't believe it though. After that, she mocked his profession and, in a voice dripping with mockery and venom, waved her hands (like she did when she was being terrible to me) and belittled him because he hadn't gone to college.Neither had she, but &quot;girls only have to be beautiful, not smart.&quot;I remember trying to argue back and finally the tears that always happened when I was being mocked by my mother. I may have said, &quot;I hate you!&quot; which could be why clueless Sis and mother's savior bro said *I* was abusive. At any rate, I may not have too. But she made me feel like the boys I dated were nothing and I was nothing. Sorry for the rant, Cedar. Another trigger from the past. And I stayed a freaken virgin for her until I got married. Of course, I don't think she believed it.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 660064, member: 1550"] She hated every boy I ever went out with EXCEPT for one that I never really liked but went out with simply because I didn't think anyone else would ever ask me out and I felt I needed to have a boyfriend. This mattered a lot to my mother, which was the cause of her long hair mania. "BOYS LIKE LONG HAIR!" Once I went out with a gentile boy who was a carpenter, and he made a good living. Immediately she picked on him for not being Jewish and repeated her sick mantra to me that non-Jews all beat their wives and drink too much. I believe my sister was spared this silliness, but I wasn't. I didn't believe it though. After that, she mocked his profession and, in a voice dripping with mockery and venom, waved her hands (like she did when she was being terrible to me) and belittled him because he hadn't gone to college. Neither had she, but "girls only have to be beautiful, not smart." I remember trying to argue back and finally the tears that always happened when I was being mocked by my mother. I may have said, "I hate you!" which could be why clueless Sis and mother's savior bro said *I* was abusive. At any rate, I may not have too. But she made me feel like the boys I dated were nothing and I was nothing. Sorry for the rant, Cedar. Another trigger from the past. And I stayed a freaken virgin for her until I got married. Of course, I don't think she believed it. [/QUOTE]

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