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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 662529" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I have been protected and cherished. My children are not in positions to protect or cherish. I will have to be stronger, more certain, less afraid, more capable. This has to do with believing people are better than they are. It has to do with that male beating my daughter and with who my own sister turned out to be. </p><p></p><p>It isn't that we were not strong, Copa. Our abuser's dysfunctions became the fulcrums upon which our very worlds revolved.</p><p></p><p>roar</p><p></p><p>I could spit, when I think of it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I don't know. I do know that this is the exact nature of our quest here, Copa. To rise above the definitions of our captors.</p><p></p><p>You phrased it beautifully.</p><p></p><p>I do know this: "At the touch of Eternity, you will know."</p><p></p><p>What I don't know right this minute is who said that.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>True, Copa. But when we are through this, and once we are freely ourselves in a way we have never known, we will be clearer, cleaner, stronger. We will feel different; safer. More someone to emulate than protect. We will be people so certain of their love, and of those they love, that our children will not use love as a weapon.</p><p></p><p>What else is my son doing but using love as a weapon when he hates me? When he pops into and out of my life at his own discretion, demanding impossible things, demanding things he was never raised to believe were right things? Would he take my house, take my money, become a righteous beggar if I did not have D H?</p><p></p><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>There are times in his life when he would.</p><p></p><p>That is why I must be stronger than I am, Copa. And I don't know how to do that.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Whoa! I am impressed. A T post, huh? Wired to the pipe elbow with all those other dimensions of things.</p><p></p><p>I have done those things too, of course.<em> Just never in real life.</em></p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 662529, member: 17461"] I have been protected and cherished. My children are not in positions to protect or cherish. I will have to be stronger, more certain, less afraid, more capable. This has to do with believing people are better than they are. It has to do with that male beating my daughter and with who my own sister turned out to be. It isn't that we were not strong, Copa. Our abuser's dysfunctions became the fulcrums upon which our very worlds revolved. roar I could spit, when I think of it. I don't know. I do know that this is the exact nature of our quest here, Copa. To rise above the definitions of our captors. You phrased it beautifully. I do know this: "At the touch of Eternity, you will know." What I don't know right this minute is who said that. :O) True, Copa. But when we are through this, and once we are freely ourselves in a way we have never known, we will be clearer, cleaner, stronger. We will feel different; safer. More someone to emulate than protect. We will be people so certain of their love, and of those they love, that our children will not use love as a weapon. What else is my son doing but using love as a weapon when he hates me? When he pops into and out of my life at his own discretion, demanding impossible things, demanding things he was never raised to believe were right things? Would he take my house, take my money, become a righteous beggar if I did not have D H? Yes. There are times in his life when he would. That is why I must be stronger than I am, Copa. And I don't know how to do that. Whoa! I am impressed. A T post, huh? Wired to the pipe elbow with all those other dimensions of things. I have done those things too, of course.[I] Just never in real life.[/I] :O) Cedar [/QUOTE]
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