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Hey, Cedar, or anyone interested in FOO (Family of Origin) issues. Cedar, WHY NOW???
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662561" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Cedar, you already have your answer. They did you a big favor. They left you. Therefore you don't have any decision to make. </p><p>Mine did that to me too. </p><p>Cedar, I have often, on this thread an d to my Higher Power, thanked the circumstances that kept my FOO out of the life of my children and husband. </p><p>This choice was taken out of your hands too.</p><p>Cedar, unless going through intensive counseling because they know they have issues, PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE! They change if they see problems a nd WANT to change and seek out ways to do it. Your mother is your mother, as she always was, not any different. She may become despaerate when she is at the end, but that doesn't mean she changed. Her circumstances changed. That's all. Your sister is your sister. She is the same sister who was so incredibly nasty about your daughter. She thinks she is a good person and will not change. There will be no happy, Beavy Cleaver ending for any of us. </p><p></p><p>And we all know what happened to Jerry Matther (Beaver Cleaver). He is an unemployed actor <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>We are not unemployed. We have worth and love and we have lived through a lot and are still standing.</p><p></p><p>Don't wish for t he stars. That will only burn your hand.</p><p></p><p>Make a good life for you. We may have come from our mothers wombs, but that doesn't make us who she is. I shudder to think of that. Our sisters may have shared the same womb, but they are not us. We are not who they are. Yes, our childhood affected us and, in this thread, in a bad way. But we are still just one person....us.</p><p></p><p>They threw us out. We are FREE!!!!</p><p></p><p>We don't owe them anything. If we want to give something, we can, but it is not a debt to them for having been our womb or shared our womb. And what of our adopted kids? We love t hem as if we'd given birth to them. So w hat is DNA? Nothing.</p><p></p><p>Love is everything, not DNA.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662561, member: 1550"] Cedar, you already have your answer. They did you a big favor. They left you. Therefore you don't have any decision to make. Mine did that to me too. Cedar, I have often, on this thread an d to my Higher Power, thanked the circumstances that kept my FOO out of the life of my children and husband. This choice was taken out of your hands too. Cedar, unless going through intensive counseling because they know they have issues, PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE! They change if they see problems a nd WANT to change and seek out ways to do it. Your mother is your mother, as she always was, not any different. She may become despaerate when she is at the end, but that doesn't mean she changed. Her circumstances changed. That's all. Your sister is your sister. She is the same sister who was so incredibly nasty about your daughter. She thinks she is a good person and will not change. There will be no happy, Beavy Cleaver ending for any of us. And we all know what happened to Jerry Matther (Beaver Cleaver). He is an unemployed actor :) We are not unemployed. We have worth and love and we have lived through a lot and are still standing. Don't wish for t he stars. That will only burn your hand. Make a good life for you. We may have come from our mothers wombs, but that doesn't make us who she is. I shudder to think of that. Our sisters may have shared the same womb, but they are not us. We are not who they are. Yes, our childhood affected us and, in this thread, in a bad way. But we are still just one person....us. They threw us out. We are FREE!!!! We don't owe them anything. If we want to give something, we can, but it is not a debt to them for having been our womb or shared our womb. And what of our adopted kids? We love t hem as if we'd given birth to them. So w hat is DNA? Nothing. Love is everything, not DNA. [/QUOTE]
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