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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 235616" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>hi! I want to Welcome you! I am glad you found us. We are "just" parents here, but we have a lot of experience.</p><p></p><p>At your son's age, take anything they "rule out" with a grain of salt. many times things are later ruled back in. This is why we suggest re-evaluating children every 3-5 years. some things simply don't show up when they are young and do emerge as they are older.</p><p></p><p>I want to STRONGLY encourage you to follow your "mommy instincts" or "gut feelings". I know that the only times I made really serious mistakes with my children are times I ignored my instincts and went with whatever the "expert" said.</p><p></p><p>The "experts" are expert in a field of study. They have a lot of education in that field. But they only spend a very short amount of time with your child, ranging from a few minutes to a few hours. But YOU are the EXPERT on your child. You spend huge amounts of time with your child, and have for years. So your instincts are there for a reason - to help guide you to whatever your child needs.</p><p></p><p>I think evaluations are crucial. I also think that a Parent Report would be an excellent thing for you to put together. It is a report you compile that is all about your child. Everything from your hopes and dreams, the things you see and experience, medical history, and all the reports from the so-called experts. Years ago someone here developed it, and it was fine-tuned over time. You will want to work on it in chunks, rather than all at once. You will also want to have copies with you anytime you see someone about your child. You may or may not want to give them a copy of the report. </p><p></p><p>I also STRONGLY recommend having a photo of your child at the beginning of the report and at the beginning of each section of the report. It helps the "pros" put a face and a real person to the paperwork. </p><p></p><p>The parent report is also VERY helpful when filling out all that interminable paperwork for each new specialist. You will have all the info at your fingertips!</p><p></p><p>here is a link to the format for the parent report: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10</a></p><p></p><p>This also talks about a multi-disciplinary evaluation. This is where a group of experts works together to test and evaluate your son and then figure out what is going on and how best to help him. We got this through an excellent Developmental pediatrician who insists that every child who is seen in his practice (now has over 10 doctors) is evaluated this way - takes 3-6sessions that are 2-4 hours long. This can also be found at Children's Hospitals and at major university hospitals.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, this is a lot of info. Be sure to ask any questions you have!</p><p></p><p>I do have a couple of books you may find helpful. the first is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Many, if not most of us here have gotten help from this book. The second is Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood by Fay and Cline. I found this to be incredibly helpful. Actually I like the entire Love and Logic line - I even went to one of their seminars and found it incredible. You can explore all the books that are offered int he Love and Logic line by going to <a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> - they even have a book just for using L&L with special needs children!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 235616, member: 1233"] hi! I want to Welcome you! I am glad you found us. We are "just" parents here, but we have a lot of experience. At your son's age, take anything they "rule out" with a grain of salt. many times things are later ruled back in. This is why we suggest re-evaluating children every 3-5 years. some things simply don't show up when they are young and do emerge as they are older. I want to STRONGLY encourage you to follow your "mommy instincts" or "gut feelings". I know that the only times I made really serious mistakes with my children are times I ignored my instincts and went with whatever the "expert" said. The "experts" are expert in a field of study. They have a lot of education in that field. But they only spend a very short amount of time with your child, ranging from a few minutes to a few hours. But YOU are the EXPERT on your child. You spend huge amounts of time with your child, and have for years. So your instincts are there for a reason - to help guide you to whatever your child needs. I think evaluations are crucial. I also think that a Parent Report would be an excellent thing for you to put together. It is a report you compile that is all about your child. Everything from your hopes and dreams, the things you see and experience, medical history, and all the reports from the so-called experts. Years ago someone here developed it, and it was fine-tuned over time. You will want to work on it in chunks, rather than all at once. You will also want to have copies with you anytime you see someone about your child. You may or may not want to give them a copy of the report. I also STRONGLY recommend having a photo of your child at the beginning of the report and at the beginning of each section of the report. It helps the "pros" put a face and a real person to the paperwork. The parent report is also VERY helpful when filling out all that interminable paperwork for each new specialist. You will have all the info at your fingertips! here is a link to the format for the parent report: [url]http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10[/url] This also talks about a multi-disciplinary evaluation. This is where a group of experts works together to test and evaluate your son and then figure out what is going on and how best to help him. We got this through an excellent Developmental pediatrician who insists that every child who is seen in his practice (now has over 10 doctors) is evaluated this way - takes 3-6sessions that are 2-4 hours long. This can also be found at Children's Hospitals and at major university hospitals. Anyway, this is a lot of info. Be sure to ask any questions you have! I do have a couple of books you may find helpful. the first is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Many, if not most of us here have gotten help from this book. The second is Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood by Fay and Cline. I found this to be incredibly helpful. Actually I like the entire Love and Logic line - I even went to one of their seminars and found it incredible. You can explore all the books that are offered int he Love and Logic line by going to [url]www.loveandlogic.com[/url] - they even have a book just for using L&L with special needs children! [/QUOTE]
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