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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 631770" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Man I love this guy. RR keeps on bringing relevant stuff to me, and showing me how my Higher Power is working. </p><p></p><p>Faith and belief is so relevant to this journey. In something or somebody that is greater than ourselves. </p><p></p><p>We have already learned the very hard way that we can't do this by ourselves. I know in AA they tell the newbies, okay so you don't believe in God. Believe in this group, believe in your Sponsor, believe in that doorknob, but believe in something besides yourself and open your mind and heart up, because your best thinking got you right here, today. </p><p></p><p>We have to knock the barriers down that we create. </p><p></p><p>Because if we can somehow reconcile what is happening with some greater truths and a Higher Power, we can really start to lean into this journey, regardless of the path it takes us on. </p><p></p><p>We can start to detach with love and accept, and look reality square in the face, and live with it, and still be happy. Steps. We have to keep taking steps, in whatever language and understanding WE have.</p><p></p><p>Great stuff below about living with paradoxes: he's good and he's not good, he does bad things and he does good things, I am strong and I am weak, I do things right and I do things wrong, and accepting that these states are not mutually exclusive and there is no black and white, once and for all, up or down, there is only the messy chaotic back and forth of being human. All of us, PCs, difficult children, SOs, DHs, every one of us is really the same. </p><p></p><p></p><p>*************************************</p><p>Paradox</p><p></p><p>The House that Wisdom Builds</p><p>Sunday, July 27, 2014</p><p></p><p>“Paradox” comes from two Greek words: para + doksos, meaning beyond the teaching or beyond the opinion. A paradox emerges when you’ve started to reconcile seeming contradictions, consciously or unconsciously. <u><strong>Paradox is the ability to live with contradictions without making them mutually exclusive, realizing they can often be both/and instead of either/or.</strong></u> G. K. Chesterton said that “a paradox is often a truth standing on its head to get our attention”!</p><p></p><p>“Dialectic” is the process of overcoming seeming opposites by uncovering a reconciling third. The third way is not simply a third opinion. It’s a third space, a holding tank, where you hold the truth in both positions without dismissing either one of them. It often becomes the “house that wisdom builds” (Proverbs 9:1-6). It’s really the fruit of a contemplative mind.</p><p></p><p>Contemplation gives us an inner capacity to live with paradoxes and contradictions. It is a quantum leap in our tolerance for ambiguity and mystery. More than anything else, this new way of processing the moment is what moves us from mere intelligence, or correct information, to what we normally mean by wisdom or non-dual thinking. The contemporary mind has almost no training in dialectical thought processes or how to think paradoxically. In fact, what it often means to be “smart” is the ability to make more and more clever distinctions! And we never experience things in their wholeness, thus the angry politics and the angry religion that is overwhelming so many of us today.</p><p></p><p>Gateway to Silence:</p><p>Abide in the One who holds everything together.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 631770, member: 17542"] Man I love this guy. RR keeps on bringing relevant stuff to me, and showing me how my Higher Power is working. Faith and belief is so relevant to this journey. In something or somebody that is greater than ourselves. We have already learned the very hard way that we can't do this by ourselves. I know in AA they tell the newbies, okay so you don't believe in God. Believe in this group, believe in your Sponsor, believe in that doorknob, but believe in something besides yourself and open your mind and heart up, because your best thinking got you right here, today. We have to knock the barriers down that we create. Because if we can somehow reconcile what is happening with some greater truths and a Higher Power, we can really start to lean into this journey, regardless of the path it takes us on. We can start to detach with love and accept, and look reality square in the face, and live with it, and still be happy. Steps. We have to keep taking steps, in whatever language and understanding WE have. Great stuff below about living with paradoxes: he's good and he's not good, he does bad things and he does good things, I am strong and I am weak, I do things right and I do things wrong, and accepting that these states are not mutually exclusive and there is no black and white, once and for all, up or down, there is only the messy chaotic back and forth of being human. All of us, PCs, difficult children, SOs, DHs, every one of us is really the same. ************************************* Paradox The House that Wisdom Builds Sunday, July 27, 2014 “Paradox” comes from two Greek words: para + doksos, meaning beyond the teaching or beyond the opinion. A paradox emerges when you’ve started to reconcile seeming contradictions, consciously or unconsciously. [U][B]Paradox is the ability to live with contradictions without making them mutually exclusive, realizing they can often be both/and instead of either/or.[/B][/U] G. K. Chesterton said that “a paradox is often a truth standing on its head to get our attention”! “Dialectic” is the process of overcoming seeming opposites by uncovering a reconciling third. The third way is not simply a third opinion. It’s a third space, a holding tank, where you hold the truth in both positions without dismissing either one of them. It often becomes the “house that wisdom builds” (Proverbs 9:1-6). It’s really the fruit of a contemplative mind. Contemplation gives us an inner capacity to live with paradoxes and contradictions. It is a quantum leap in our tolerance for ambiguity and mystery. More than anything else, this new way of processing the moment is what moves us from mere intelligence, or correct information, to what we normally mean by wisdom or non-dual thinking. The contemporary mind has almost no training in dialectical thought processes or how to think paradoxically. In fact, what it often means to be “smart” is the ability to make more and more clever distinctions! And we never experience things in their wholeness, thus the angry politics and the angry religion that is overwhelming so many of us today. Gateway to Silence: Abide in the One who holds everything together. [/QUOTE]
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