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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 736620" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Acacia, be kind to yourself. Find your compassion for yourself. That's what's helped me to work my way through that guilt.</p><p></p><p> As we make the difficult changes necessary to assert our boundaries, the old patterns emerge... pushing us to continue enabling so the pain of "feeling like an awful person without a heart" will subside... just like a recovering addict, we have to lean into and walk through the uncomfortable feelings and the uncertainty....and each time we do that, each time we hold that boundary, it gets easier and the guilt fades. And, one day, it's not there at all. </p><p></p><p>Stay the course, you're doing the right thing, you're stopping patterned behavior, it just doesn't feel that good for a little while.....practice excellent self care, focus on YOU. Do what you love. Do what makes you smile. Nourish yourself. Find your joy...fill yourself back up now....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 736620, member: 13542"] Acacia, be kind to yourself. Find your compassion for yourself. That's what's helped me to work my way through that guilt. As we make the difficult changes necessary to assert our boundaries, the old patterns emerge... pushing us to continue enabling so the pain of "feeling like an awful person without a heart" will subside... just like a recovering addict, we have to lean into and walk through the uncomfortable feelings and the uncertainty....and each time we do that, each time we hold that boundary, it gets easier and the guilt fades. And, one day, it's not there at all. Stay the course, you're doing the right thing, you're stopping patterned behavior, it just doesn't feel that good for a little while.....practice excellent self care, focus on YOU. Do what you love. Do what makes you smile. Nourish yourself. Find your joy...fill yourself back up now.... [/QUOTE]
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