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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 730784" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Thanks to all of you wonderful folks for your love, kindness, and support.</p><p></p><p>This has been a roller coaster from Day One. As the boys grew older things got more complicated, more volatile, at times violent and dangerous as all of you know.</p><p></p><p>The fact is, they never had a good relationship with my wife and as they became teens, they took the opportunity to jettison her from their lives, slowly at first and now with (seeming) finality.</p><p></p><p>I was seen as a potential savior by YS especially, but when I refused to play that role then I was lumped in the same category as wife, and jettisoned as well. Which frankly, is fine by me. My life is better without them in it and as a stepparent, obviously, emotionally I have very little at stake, especially since wife and I have been married only a few years.</p><p></p><p>As SOT stated, the harsh reality here is that despite their legitimate struggles with mental illness and dysfunctional raising, neither of these boys has good character. I can be very plain spoken and to a point harsh with these types of things. Their treatment of my wife and me is not the only reason I say this, there is other evidence as well in their treatment of others.</p><p></p><p>I teach students with far worse struggles than these two. None of these students would even speak to ME in such a cruel and heartless manner, let alone their own parents. Even those students whose parents have brutally abused and abandoned them, do not speak of them so harshly. They say: "I don't want (parent) in my life but they GAVE me my life so I owe them props for that." Now that's something you can't argue with. Painful (potentially) for the parent but clearly a decision made by the child in their own best interest. YS and DS want to inflict as much pain as possible on my wife - in my humble opinion, to avenge their wounded father who refuses to move on after his divorce (over a decade ago) from their mother.</p><p></p><p>Thanks again to all, I will still be here!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 730784, member: 13303"] Thanks to all of you wonderful folks for your love, kindness, and support. This has been a roller coaster from Day One. As the boys grew older things got more complicated, more volatile, at times violent and dangerous as all of you know. The fact is, they never had a good relationship with my wife and as they became teens, they took the opportunity to jettison her from their lives, slowly at first and now with (seeming) finality. I was seen as a potential savior by YS especially, but when I refused to play that role then I was lumped in the same category as wife, and jettisoned as well. Which frankly, is fine by me. My life is better without them in it and as a stepparent, obviously, emotionally I have very little at stake, especially since wife and I have been married only a few years. As SOT stated, the harsh reality here is that despite their legitimate struggles with mental illness and dysfunctional raising, neither of these boys has good character. I can be very plain spoken and to a point harsh with these types of things. Their treatment of my wife and me is not the only reason I say this, there is other evidence as well in their treatment of others. I teach students with far worse struggles than these two. None of these students would even speak to ME in such a cruel and heartless manner, let alone their own parents. Even those students whose parents have brutally abused and abandoned them, do not speak of them so harshly. They say: "I don't want (parent) in my life but they GAVE me my life so I owe them props for that." Now that's something you can't argue with. Painful (potentially) for the parent but clearly a decision made by the child in their own best interest. YS and DS want to inflict as much pain as possible on my wife - in my humble opinion, to avenge their wounded father who refuses to move on after his divorce (over a decade ago) from their mother. Thanks again to all, I will still be here! [/QUOTE]
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