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Holidays Ahead...Anybody else dreading them?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 753641" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p><span style="color: #4d4dff"><u><strong>Busy, you have nothing to feel guilty about. </strong></u></span></p><p>There is no shame or guilt in not wanting to be around people that are toxic or cause distress.</p><p>One year my son went off on me because I did not invite him for Christmas. He berated me for inviting his ex wife and my grand kids. He kept saying "but I'm your son". Yes, he's my son but he is not welcome in my home. I have been burned by him too many times. I told him I was not comfortable having him my house because of all the times he has stolen from me. I told him I don't want people in my home that I can't trust. He kept coming back to "but I'm your son". </p><p>There may be some people who find my attitude cold and uncaring but I don't let that bother me. Life is much too short and I would much rather surround myself with people who appreciate me than people who show only disdain for me or just want to use me. </p><p>I would love for someday to be able to trust my son and have him in my home but he would need to prove himself first. I have forgiven him for all the horrible things he has said to me over the years, I have forgiven him for all the times he stole from me, I have forgiven him for all the times I would come home to a ransacked house because he was looking for money, I have forgiven him for so many things, but what I cannot do is forget and I do not feel one bit guilty about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 753641, member: 18516"] [COLOR=#4d4dff][U][B]Busy, you have nothing to feel guilty about. [/B][/U][/COLOR] There is no shame or guilt in not wanting to be around people that are toxic or cause distress. One year my son went off on me because I did not invite him for Christmas. He berated me for inviting his ex wife and my grand kids. He kept saying "but I'm your son". Yes, he's my son but he is not welcome in my home. I have been burned by him too many times. I told him I was not comfortable having him my house because of all the times he has stolen from me. I told him I don't want people in my home that I can't trust. He kept coming back to "but I'm your son". There may be some people who find my attitude cold and uncaring but I don't let that bother me. Life is much too short and I would much rather surround myself with people who appreciate me than people who show only disdain for me or just want to use me. I would love for someday to be able to trust my son and have him in my home but he would need to prove himself first. I have forgiven him for all the horrible things he has said to me over the years, I have forgiven him for all the times he stole from me, I have forgiven him for all the times I would come home to a ransacked house because he was looking for money, I have forgiven him for so many things, but what I cannot do is forget and I do not feel one bit guilty about it. [/QUOTE]
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