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<blockquote data-quote="AddictionSucks123" data-source="post: 766663" data-attributes="member: 31168">Hi Lexii, I can hear your heart break and fear from all the things you have gone through to support your son the best that you could.&nbsp; It's terribly frightening when the psychosis presents itself.&nbsp; I have been there.&nbsp; I learned I didn't have to validate his psychosis but validate how he felt in the moment and try to use what empathy I could to bring understanding.You and your husband have been going through this for a long time. Would you be open to going to a support group?&nbsp; There are many that are online now.&nbsp; There are Smart Recovery Meetings, Thrive meetings, or Al Anon meetings.&nbsp; Any of these support meetings are essential for us to not only be heard but the group will also help you process your own needs in times of great distress. Your son is an adult and he is on the blame cycle. For your son, the resources available to him will come based on his actions. He, too can attend online meetings, or find an online therapist, if there is not one locally available. The question is, would he be interested?&nbsp; You and your husband have a right to not pick him up or let him back in your house to live with you. You have a right to have a peaceful life for yourself.&nbsp; I know you are in pain, because you want to help your son not feel so much hurt and loneliness and so many other things.&nbsp; And you too, have the right to feel empowered and strong, with or without hope for your son.&nbsp; And radical acceptance is also ok.&nbsp; If you are interested, I looked at a lot of videos on Youtube by Put the Shovel Down by Amber Hollingsworth (an addiction counselor) and it has taught me so much about addiction and the brain.&nbsp; There are many that will reference boundaries, communication, relationship building and motivational interviewing.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="AddictionSucks123, post: 766663, member: 31168"] Hi Lexii, I can hear your heart break and fear from all the things you have gone through to support your son the best that you could. It's terribly frightening when the psychosis presents itself. I have been there. I learned I didn't have to validate his psychosis but validate how he felt in the moment and try to use what empathy I could to bring understanding. You and your husband have been going through this for a long time. Would you be open to going to a support group? There are many that are online now. There are Smart Recovery Meetings, Thrive meetings, or Al Anon meetings. Any of these support meetings are essential for us to not only be heard but the group will also help you process your own needs in times of great distress. Your son is an adult and he is on the blame cycle. For your son, the resources available to him will come based on his actions. He, too can attend online meetings, or find an online therapist, if there is not one locally available. The question is, would he be interested? You and your husband have a right to not pick him up or let him back in your house to live with you. You have a right to have a peaceful life for yourself. I know you are in pain, because you want to help your son not feel so much hurt and loneliness and so many other things. And you too, have the right to feel empowered and strong, with or without hope for your son. And radical acceptance is also ok. If you are interested, I looked at a lot of videos on Youtube by Put the Shovel Down by Amber Hollingsworth (an addiction counselor) and it has taught me so much about addiction and the brain. There are many that will reference boundaries, communication, relationship building and motivational interviewing. [/QUOTE]

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