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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766666" data-attributes="member: 18958">The quotes above were choices you made. You understand now you can't make the same choices. It's enough already. We are so glad you're here with us.The main issue here is not your son, I believe, it's you. You are no different than the rest of us here.&nbsp; Learning to tolerate reality and the fact that you can't solve the issues for your son. That is what brings everybody here.&nbsp; You are NOT alone.My son is mentally ill and brain injured. He is homeless. He needs all kinds of treatment, but doesn't get it.&nbsp; I have been here 10 years, learning to accept reality and living with it.&nbsp; It's taken writing 10,000 posts. Please stay. We care.This is your place to stand. This is solid ground. Good for you!Good for you!!!Say no. No is a good thing to say, in these wrenching and horrible circumstances.&nbsp; No is the right thing to say for you and for your family, and for your son.&nbsp; Over and over again public authorities and resources have intervened to help or to contain your son. When things get so bad with our adult children, we don't have the expertise or capacity to help them. It is between them and society.I live in California. Sometimes I think half the world comes here with their problems. And even smaller towns have resources to help treat and house people who need help. And the counties transport people from County to County. Your son has the capacity to travel to another place or get assistance to do so. He does not have to be or stay home. He should not. Your son knows how to seek help. He has the where with all to get on a bus to someplace that does have services and support for him. He chooses not to. Your job is to not support him to do the wrong thing. Impaired as our adult children are, they have the right to live as they want, are able, and choose. We have the obligation to respect their right to do this. That is what I have come to believe.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766666, member: 18958"] The quotes above were choices you made. You understand now you can't make the same choices. It's enough already. We are so glad you're here with us. The main issue here is not your son, I believe, it's you. You are no different than the rest of us here. Learning to tolerate reality and the fact that you can't solve the issues for your son. That is what brings everybody here. You are NOT alone. My son is mentally ill and brain injured. He is homeless. He needs all kinds of treatment, but doesn't get it. I have been here 10 years, learning to accept reality and living with it. It's taken writing 10,000 posts. Please stay. We care. This is your place to stand. This is solid ground. Good for you! Good for you!!! Say no. No is a good thing to say, in these wrenching and horrible circumstances. No is the right thing to say for you and for your family, and for your son. Over and over again public authorities and resources have intervened to help or to contain your son. When things get so bad with our adult children, we don't have the expertise or capacity to help them. It is between them and society. I live in California. Sometimes I think half the world comes here with their problems. And even smaller towns have resources to help treat and house people who need help. And the counties transport people from County to County. Your son has the capacity to travel to another place or get assistance to do so. He does not have to be or stay home. He should not. Your son knows how to seek help. He has the where with all to get on a bus to someplace that does have services and support for him. He chooses not to. Your job is to not support him to do the wrong thing. Impaired as our adult children are, they have the right to live as they want, are able, and choose. We have the obligation to respect their right to do this. That is what I have come to believe. [/QUOTE]

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