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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766670" data-attributes="member: 18958">My son is 36. He does not use meth as far as I know, but he does use other drugs. He is homeless and mentally ill. He is also brain injured. I used to think he wouldn't take charge of his own life, but now I see he does. He does take charge of his life. He just doesn't live like I believe and know would be easier on him, his body and his mind (and certainly would ease my own mind.)&nbsp; My son lives exactly as he chooses.&nbsp; He is completely in charge. He will only give lip service to me, to secure what he wants that I can give him. He may look like he's complying, in order to get something, but it's not even skin deep. I love him very much.While he is manipulative, I think he really does not want to live any different than he is living.&nbsp; I don't think he wants to work. I don't think he believes there is a way to feel better. Even though he would love a family and children, he has renounced this as a possibility. He only wants to be more comfortable, and have it easier.While intellectually I accept reality, emotionally, it's very hard. If I could accept reality emotionally, and not long for him to change, I could help him more--because it wouldn't hurt so much.&nbsp; It is what it is. It's so hard for all of us.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766670, member: 18958"] My son is 36. He does not use meth as far as I know, but he does use other drugs. He is homeless and mentally ill. He is also brain injured. I used to think he wouldn't take charge of his own life, but now I see he does. He does take charge of his life. He just doesn't live like I believe and know would be easier on him, his body and his mind (and certainly would ease my own mind.) My son lives exactly as he chooses. He is completely in charge. He will only give lip service to me, to secure what he wants that I can give him. He may look like he's complying, in order to get something, but it's not even skin deep. I love him very much. While he is manipulative, I think he really does not want to live any different than he is living. I don't think he wants to work. I don't think he believes there is a way to feel better. Even though he would love a family and children, he has renounced this as a possibility. He only wants to be more comfortable, and have it easier. While intellectually I accept reality, emotionally, it's very hard. If I could accept reality emotionally, and not long for him to change, I could help him more--because it wouldn't hurt so much. It is what it is. It's so hard for all of us. [/QUOTE]

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