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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 733807" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Trying,</p><p></p><p>The answer is simple.</p><p></p><p>We need to accept that we, their parents, are not God and cannot do for our children what they are unwilling to do for themselves.</p><p></p><p>As long as our peace of mind depends on what someone else is doing, we will never know peace. We cannot control others. We can only control ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Our job is to live productive, happy and healthy lives to the fullest regardless of what our children do, or do not, accomplish. Regardless of whether they do what we think is best. Regardless of whether they choose to treat their mental illness or not. Regardless of whether they choose to stop using drugs or not. We cannot control them. The more we try the worse our children seem to become.</p><p></p><p>Let go and let your son find his way on his own, because this is the only path for all of us. </p><p></p><p>I highly recommend that you check out Al Anon or CODA (codependents anonymous) meetings in your area or via phone. These programs have saved my life and kept me from losing my mind. They are a gentle reminder that our kids have to write their own happy endings and that we cannot make them accept help, accept that they have problems - any of it. We need to let it ALL go.</p><p></p><p>I know this is not the answer you probably hoped for, but in my opinion it is really the only answer for any of us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 733807, member: 13303"] Trying, The answer is simple. We need to accept that we, their parents, are not God and cannot do for our children what they are unwilling to do for themselves. As long as our peace of mind depends on what someone else is doing, we will never know peace. We cannot control others. We can only control ourselves. Our job is to live productive, happy and healthy lives to the fullest regardless of what our children do, or do not, accomplish. Regardless of whether they do what we think is best. Regardless of whether they choose to treat their mental illness or not. Regardless of whether they choose to stop using drugs or not. We cannot control them. The more we try the worse our children seem to become. Let go and let your son find his way on his own, because this is the only path for all of us. I highly recommend that you check out Al Anon or CODA (codependents anonymous) meetings in your area or via phone. These programs have saved my life and kept me from losing my mind. They are a gentle reminder that our kids have to write their own happy endings and that we cannot make them accept help, accept that they have problems - any of it. We need to let it ALL go. I know this is not the answer you probably hoped for, but in my opinion it is really the only answer for any of us. [/QUOTE]
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