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Hour in the bathroom with-a blanket, pillows, magazine and cell ph, therapist on speed dial
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 530774" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>I remember one therapist telling us to take away difficult child's most beloved items from her room when she misbehaved and/or threw a tantrum, which, in difficult children case, meant her boom box. I did it once --- it was supposed to be for a week. It lasted 3 days maybe. By day two, it occurred to me that she was truly suffering and wasn't 'learning' any lessons except how to be cruel. I swore I would never take away music and I never did again. Other stuff, privileges, yes, but never music. It was the only outlet that soothed her anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), tics, and depression. </p><p></p><p>I think parenting a teenaged difficult child is very tricky because while they have the behaviors that their brain disorders present, they are also typical teens and so, while they may not be very good at it, they do try to manipulate. In that way, I think a 15 y/o is capable, though he/she just may not be well practiced at it or their difficult child-ness makes it difficult to pull off. When my easy child was trying to manipulate, we saw it...and she was very good at it, lol! When difficult child tried to manipulate us, it was a bit more difficult to differentiate between typical teen behavior and difficult child behavior. She got us a couple of times, lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 530774, member: 2211"] I remember one therapist telling us to take away difficult child's most beloved items from her room when she misbehaved and/or threw a tantrum, which, in difficult children case, meant her boom box. I did it once --- it was supposed to be for a week. It lasted 3 days maybe. By day two, it occurred to me that she was truly suffering and wasn't 'learning' any lessons except how to be cruel. I swore I would never take away music and I never did again. Other stuff, privileges, yes, but never music. It was the only outlet that soothed her anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), tics, and depression. I think parenting a teenaged difficult child is very tricky because while they have the behaviors that their brain disorders present, they are also typical teens and so, while they may not be very good at it, they do try to manipulate. In that way, I think a 15 y/o is capable, though he/she just may not be well practiced at it or their difficult child-ness makes it difficult to pull off. When my easy child was trying to manipulate, we saw it...and she was very good at it, lol! When difficult child tried to manipulate us, it was a bit more difficult to differentiate between typical teen behavior and difficult child behavior. She got us a couple of times, lol. [/QUOTE]
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