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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 531038" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>So, I picked up difficult child at school and went to the therapist.</p><p>therapist said, "You know why you're here today, don't you?"</p><p>"Yes, sir."</p><p>(Sir???) </p><p>Then therapist read difficult child the Riot Act.</p><p>(He also reminded me to fill out Chins forms so that I can get difficult child in the system asap if/when I have to call the police.)</p><p>He told both of us that there is no "next time."</p><p>There is only juvenile detention.</p><p></p><p>He started out by asking, "How tall are you? How much do you weigh? How old are you?"</p><p>difficult child dutifully answered and the therapist said, "When someone your age and ht and wt throws a tantrum like a 4-yr-old, it means that your mom calls the police."</p><p></p><p>difficult child asked for one wk, maybe two, to get his act together before we send him away somewhere. He said his goal is to not have his girlfriend break up with-him. That's all he lives for.</p><p>I had to ask, "If she breaks up with-you, then what do you have to live for?"</p><p>I paused and said, "You need to do this for yourself. You are smart, strong and capable. You are a GOOD person. Do it for yourself. I know you think I hate you and you hate me, and you won't understand any of this until you're my age. But just do it for yourself."</p><p>He mumbled something about supposing he could do that if and when the time comes that she breaks up with-him.</p><p></p><p>I told the therapist that on the way in the door to his ofc, difficult child said he wanted me to take him to B&N to pick up a new Dean Koonz book. Say what?</p><p>"You haven't even gone through your punishment for the Xbox yet!" therapist shouted. "Your head is in the wrong place!"</p><p></p><p>He also said, "I don't care what's going through your head, what your reasoning is, what your problems are. I want to make it perfectly clear to you that this behavior has to stop. Period. This is the end. Your behavior WILL CHANGE. Now, what is your plan to change it? And stop and think before you open your mouth and talk to me."</p><p>Sigh.</p><p>After that, he asked difficult child to leave the room, and then told me that the next time, (and sadly, there will be one) I should call the police, I had a choice to have them take him to the psychiatric hospital or to jail/juvie. He suggested juvie, because he thinks that difficult child has figured that he can work the psychiatric system and say whatever he wants and he'll be out in a week and back to his old behavior.</p><p></p><p>So, I take difficult child back to school. He stays after to do homework/tutoring, and calls to have me pick him up so he won't have to stay on the bus for over an hr. Fine. A little bit ago, the science teacher remailed and said that difficult child only finished one assignment and then called Mrs. J to pick him up early (she apparently thinks she's been emailing husband all this time). She was discouraged and disappointed.</p><p>I printed out the note, gave it to husband, and husband gave it to difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I am going to tell difficult child no ph or TV or anything tomorrow night if he does not do science at lunchtime. (You can do working lunches.)</p><p></p><p>He is just so lackadaisical, I can't tell if it's depression or if he really believes he's beaten the system and he can just slide by. </p><p>There's only one way to find out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 531038, member: 3419"] So, I picked up difficult child at school and went to the therapist. therapist said, "You know why you're here today, don't you?" "Yes, sir." (Sir???) Then therapist read difficult child the Riot Act. (He also reminded me to fill out Chins forms so that I can get difficult child in the system asap if/when I have to call the police.) He told both of us that there is no "next time." There is only juvenile detention. He started out by asking, "How tall are you? How much do you weigh? How old are you?" difficult child dutifully answered and the therapist said, "When someone your age and ht and wt throws a tantrum like a 4-yr-old, it means that your mom calls the police." difficult child asked for one wk, maybe two, to get his act together before we send him away somewhere. He said his goal is to not have his girlfriend break up with-him. That's all he lives for. I had to ask, "If she breaks up with-you, then what do you have to live for?" I paused and said, "You need to do this for yourself. You are smart, strong and capable. You are a GOOD person. Do it for yourself. I know you think I hate you and you hate me, and you won't understand any of this until you're my age. But just do it for yourself." He mumbled something about supposing he could do that if and when the time comes that she breaks up with-him. I told the therapist that on the way in the door to his ofc, difficult child said he wanted me to take him to B&N to pick up a new Dean Koonz book. Say what? "You haven't even gone through your punishment for the Xbox yet!" therapist shouted. "Your head is in the wrong place!" He also said, "I don't care what's going through your head, what your reasoning is, what your problems are. I want to make it perfectly clear to you that this behavior has to stop. Period. This is the end. Your behavior WILL CHANGE. Now, what is your plan to change it? And stop and think before you open your mouth and talk to me." Sigh. After that, he asked difficult child to leave the room, and then told me that the next time, (and sadly, there will be one) I should call the police, I had a choice to have them take him to the psychiatric hospital or to jail/juvie. He suggested juvie, because he thinks that difficult child has figured that he can work the psychiatric system and say whatever he wants and he'll be out in a week and back to his old behavior. So, I take difficult child back to school. He stays after to do homework/tutoring, and calls to have me pick him up so he won't have to stay on the bus for over an hr. Fine. A little bit ago, the science teacher remailed and said that difficult child only finished one assignment and then called Mrs. J to pick him up early (she apparently thinks she's been emailing husband all this time). She was discouraged and disappointed. I printed out the note, gave it to husband, and husband gave it to difficult child. I am going to tell difficult child no ph or TV or anything tomorrow night if he does not do science at lunchtime. (You can do working lunches.) He is just so lackadaisical, I can't tell if it's depression or if he really believes he's beaten the system and he can just slide by. There's only one way to find out. [/QUOTE]
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