RM
I feel so badly for you!!! I wish I could help but my difficult children are younger and I haven't been in a position like you are in yet. It sounds like you and your husband have bent over backwards to help difficult child. in my humble opinion, difficult children very rarely accept responsibility for their actions... Its the same old, same old garbage all of the time. Its always someone else's fault... Are they really that clueless???
Not only is it someone else's fault, but also they don't seem to see that their poor choices got them into the mess they're in to begin with. They only think that the consequences are totally unfair....
One of my first thoughts after I read your post is that I wouldn't put out any more money to help difficult child. You and husband have a right to retire. It is so SAD that your poor husband now has to work until he is 70...
As hard as it is to detach, maybe it is time to let natural consequences run their course. However, after saying this, I realize that I really don't know enough about your situation to offer this kind of advice.
Sorry I can't really help you. Hang in there... As I always say, everything is always
subject to change... WFEn
