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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 660795" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Lil, your son's F you reminds me of the incident 5 or 6 weeks ago, when my son mocked my abuse by my father.</p><p></p><p>I had set a limit saying something like, "I will not tolerate your speaking to me in that way.</p><p></p><p>Next time I will just hang up the phone. Why engage in I-Thou with him? My mistake.</p><p></p><p>He had said, "What do I remind you of your abusive father?"</p><p></p><p>My point is this: They are getting that we are changing. And they hate it.</p><p></p><p>Their lives are closing in on them. And they do not like it one bit. Of course, it is everybody else's fault.</p><p></p><p>Your son has nowhere else to lash out.</p><p></p><p>He has gotten a taste of what life is like without your help.</p><p></p><p>I think he may have found something that is worth wanting, that girl. So he has to stay in the game. He hates that.</p><p></p><p>But oops. Grampa is controlling the game. He hates it.</p><p></p><p>The vice is tightening. Good.</p><p>'</p><p>So, that is why he lashed out at you.</p><p></p><p>But this should never, ever be allowed.</p><p></p><p>Do whatever you have to do to not go kissy kissy with him for a while until he gets that this is a boundary that he will never cross again. Ever.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 660795, member: 18958"] Lil, your son's F you reminds me of the incident 5 or 6 weeks ago, when my son mocked my abuse by my father. I had set a limit saying something like, "I will not tolerate your speaking to me in that way. Next time I will just hang up the phone. Why engage in I-Thou with him? My mistake. He had said, "What do I remind you of your abusive father?" My point is this: They are getting that we are changing. And they hate it. Their lives are closing in on them. And they do not like it one bit. Of course, it is everybody else's fault. Your son has nowhere else to lash out. He has gotten a taste of what life is like without your help. I think he may have found something that is worth wanting, that girl. So he has to stay in the game. He hates that. But oops. Grampa is controlling the game. He hates it. The vice is tightening. Good. ' So, that is why he lashed out at you. But this should never, ever be allowed. Do whatever you have to do to not go kissy kissy with him for a while until he gets that this is a boundary that he will never cross again. Ever. [/QUOTE]
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