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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 187234" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>Vicki, I can't weigh in on son#2 but let's talk a moment about son#1. </p><p> </p><p>I think you might be suffering from "halo effect." What I mean is that you are not remembering how it really was...and I do...and I expect other members do, too.</p><p> </p><p>I remember how frightened and angry you were. It might have been exascerbated by perimenopause but your fear and rage were genuine and his behaviors were inexcusable. Now time has passed, you miss your grandchild and you are now willing to downplay the past in order to see Kyla.</p><p> </p><p>I agree with your husband, Vicki. I know you won't like to read this. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>This seems completely reasonable to me.</p><p> </p><p>Please don't let your desire to see Kyla- and your admitted loneliness- minimize the severity of your son's actions. He's 21 and should be busting his backside to try to prove to you what a great son and father he is.</p><p> </p><p>So let's talk about how lonely you are and what you can do to try to redirect. Interests? Hobbies? Books?</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 187234, member: 29"] Vicki, I can't weigh in on son#2 but let's talk a moment about son#1. I think you might be suffering from "halo effect." What I mean is that you are not remembering how it really was...and I do...and I expect other members do, too. I remember how frightened and angry you were. It might have been exascerbated by perimenopause but your fear and rage were genuine and his behaviors were inexcusable. Now time has passed, you miss your grandchild and you are now willing to downplay the past in order to see Kyla. I agree with your husband, Vicki. I know you won't like to read this. This seems completely reasonable to me. Please don't let your desire to see Kyla- and your admitted loneliness- minimize the severity of your son's actions. He's 21 and should be busting his backside to try to prove to you what a great son and father he is. So let's talk about how lonely you are and what you can do to try to redirect. Interests? Hobbies? Books? Hugs, Suz [/QUOTE]
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