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How do I go about getting my son to move out
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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 466150" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>Welcome and ((((HUGS))))</p><p></p><p>I know you are hurting and confused, and all sorts of other emotions, BUT you have answered your own questions and calmed your own fears already, you just don't realize it yet.</p><p>Go backwards and do what you already have done, but see it as a success. </p><p></p><p>Why did you let him back? in my opinion (especially with 20/20 hindsight here) the improvement in attitude wasn't atonement, it was him standing on his own two feet. It was his trying to figure out how he would feed and clothe himself. And then he got his safety net, and he no longer had to worry about such things. He was allowed to behave like a child with no responsibilities.</p><p></p><p>You have the ability and strength to do the right things and make the right decisions. You proved it by kicking him out. You are not being mean. Even the mama bird literally pushes a young chick out of the nest if it refuses to fly. Your young chick is refusing to be responsible and respectful in your home. It's time to push. And if you are not ready to push out the door, then you can still push in the home. How much does he contribute to said groceries? Nothing? Then you buy him nothing special. He should be grateful that you are willing to share any food with him. Laundry? Yard work? Is he at least contributing in these capacities? No? Sweetie, don't you DARE wash his clothes for him. He's got two hands. You are not being mean, you are teaching him that he MUST do these things on his own. </p><p></p><p>((((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 466150, member: 11965"] Welcome and ((((HUGS)))) I know you are hurting and confused, and all sorts of other emotions, BUT you have answered your own questions and calmed your own fears already, you just don't realize it yet. Go backwards and do what you already have done, but see it as a success. Why did you let him back? in my opinion (especially with 20/20 hindsight here) the improvement in attitude wasn't atonement, it was him standing on his own two feet. It was his trying to figure out how he would feed and clothe himself. And then he got his safety net, and he no longer had to worry about such things. He was allowed to behave like a child with no responsibilities. You have the ability and strength to do the right things and make the right decisions. You proved it by kicking him out. You are not being mean. Even the mama bird literally pushes a young chick out of the nest if it refuses to fly. Your young chick is refusing to be responsible and respectful in your home. It's time to push. And if you are not ready to push out the door, then you can still push in the home. How much does he contribute to said groceries? Nothing? Then you buy him nothing special. He should be grateful that you are willing to share any food with him. Laundry? Yard work? Is he at least contributing in these capacities? No? Sweetie, don't you DARE wash his clothes for him. He's got two hands. You are not being mean, you are teaching him that he MUST do these things on his own. ((((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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