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<blockquote data-quote="RPmom" data-source="post: 744699" data-attributes="member: 23522"><p>Before my parents died they always hosted all the holidays at their home. Luckily my daughter behaves very well in social situations but of course the family knows her troubles and they do not trust her. My mother and father moved in with my sister years ago and after finding drugs in their house that my daughter had brought in they forbid her from coming there. This led to some family drama. It was made worse when on one occasions my daughter brought some man that she had just met into my sisters home in the middle of the night. My sister has young children and she already had my daughters number, if you know what I mean. My daughter was never allowed back to my sisters home. Soon afterwards, and because of this, me elderly and by then widowed father moved in with me and everything changed. My brother started hosting Christmas, but it was not the same. My daughter did go to their house where she was welcomed and she was very well behaved as she always is in the presence of others. But this year we are having Christmas at my sisters home again and my daughter will not be there. My daughter understands that she is not welcome there. My sister tries to be a good aunt to my daughter that my sister has made it clear that my daughter is not welcome in her home under any circumstances because she has young impressIonable teenagers now. There are some confused feelings about this but both me and my daughter agree that my sister has the right to decide who is welcome in her home. My brother my sister and her family tries to love my daughter they just don’t want her around them with a 10 foot pole if they can help it. We have spent Thanksgiving together and had a wonderful time but it was at a restaurant and a bowling alley and I think that made a big difference. So I guess I would say for those in a similar situation that I now find myself, celebrations With our troubled children should be held in a neutral zone, or a limited time, and if they don’t appreciate the gifts they are given they should not be given gifts at all. Again, I am learning so much on the site so I am reading what everyone else is on this issue. I will not be spending Christmas with my daughter this year. She Seems OK with that. We are going to beat up at a restaurant and I will give her the gifts I bought which are basically some shoes and a new hair straightener. She already told me she is grateful that I am giving her anything at all and I believe her. God I hope I am not wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RPmom, post: 744699, member: 23522"] Before my parents died they always hosted all the holidays at their home. Luckily my daughter behaves very well in social situations but of course the family knows her troubles and they do not trust her. My mother and father moved in with my sister years ago and after finding drugs in their house that my daughter had brought in they forbid her from coming there. This led to some family drama. It was made worse when on one occasions my daughter brought some man that she had just met into my sisters home in the middle of the night. My sister has young children and she already had my daughters number, if you know what I mean. My daughter was never allowed back to my sisters home. Soon afterwards, and because of this, me elderly and by then widowed father moved in with me and everything changed. My brother started hosting Christmas, but it was not the same. My daughter did go to their house where she was welcomed and she was very well behaved as she always is in the presence of others. But this year we are having Christmas at my sisters home again and my daughter will not be there. My daughter understands that she is not welcome there. My sister tries to be a good aunt to my daughter that my sister has made it clear that my daughter is not welcome in her home under any circumstances because she has young impressIonable teenagers now. There are some confused feelings about this but both me and my daughter agree that my sister has the right to decide who is welcome in her home. My brother my sister and her family tries to love my daughter they just don’t want her around them with a 10 foot pole if they can help it. We have spent Thanksgiving together and had a wonderful time but it was at a restaurant and a bowling alley and I think that made a big difference. So I guess I would say for those in a similar situation that I now find myself, celebrations With our troubled children should be held in a neutral zone, or a limited time, and if they don’t appreciate the gifts they are given they should not be given gifts at all. Again, I am learning so much on the site so I am reading what everyone else is on this issue. I will not be spending Christmas with my daughter this year. She Seems OK with that. We are going to beat up at a restaurant and I will give her the gifts I bought which are basically some shoes and a new hair straightener. She already told me she is grateful that I am giving her anything at all and I believe her. God I hope I am not wrong. [/QUOTE]
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