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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 696799" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>My husband knows that my close group of friends and a few girls at work know about our son. He has asked me firmly NOT to share his latest situation (drinking at his IOP house and having to move). He feels that is "sharing our dirty laundry" and that is our "family business". I think he is ashamed.</p><p></p><p>I tell them anyway. He doesn't like to talk much about things - gets sick of me talking about it even though I try not to talk about it as much with him as I WANT to. I shared this all with my therapist and she said that if my friends give me support then it is ok. I just don't tell him what I tell them! It must come out. </p><p></p><p>I would not tell someone that I do not know well or see rarely anything at all or minimal and nothing bad. Maybe "He's living and working in Florida". Sounds so glamorous! And so what if he's not working right now LOL.</p><p></p><p>I found out that one of my son's childhood friends said horrible things to my son by text that I just happened to see (when he was in rehab here in Chicago and I had his phone) like he is a douche, he is a loser, nothing but an addict, the lowest form of life, etc. really cruel stuff...I hurt so bad when I read these things. That was my son's first friend at age 4. A neighbor. We treated him like our own son. Prior to this I had found out that his father is having an affair with his wife's best friend. It has been going on for years. Husband told my husband some time ago and he told me. So....there you have it. This "friend" was sitting high on his perch and spitting down on us. Little did he know the filth going on in his own home.</p><p></p><p>I know sometimes my friends don't ask because later they tell me that they care and pray for us but don't want to bring it up all the time. I know they care and I appreciate that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 696799, member: 15032"] My husband knows that my close group of friends and a few girls at work know about our son. He has asked me firmly NOT to share his latest situation (drinking at his IOP house and having to move). He feels that is "sharing our dirty laundry" and that is our "family business". I think he is ashamed. I tell them anyway. He doesn't like to talk much about things - gets sick of me talking about it even though I try not to talk about it as much with him as I WANT to. I shared this all with my therapist and she said that if my friends give me support then it is ok. I just don't tell him what I tell them! It must come out. I would not tell someone that I do not know well or see rarely anything at all or minimal and nothing bad. Maybe "He's living and working in Florida". Sounds so glamorous! And so what if he's not working right now LOL. I found out that one of my son's childhood friends said horrible things to my son by text that I just happened to see (when he was in rehab here in Chicago and I had his phone) like he is a douche, he is a loser, nothing but an addict, the lowest form of life, etc. really cruel stuff...I hurt so bad when I read these things. That was my son's first friend at age 4. A neighbor. We treated him like our own son. Prior to this I had found out that his father is having an affair with his wife's best friend. It has been going on for years. Husband told my husband some time ago and he told me. So....there you have it. This "friend" was sitting high on his perch and spitting down on us. Little did he know the filth going on in his own home. I know sometimes my friends don't ask because later they tell me that they care and pray for us but don't want to bring it up all the time. I know they care and I appreciate that. [/QUOTE]
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