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How do you cope when your child chooses to be homeless?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 630537" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>htiredandworried,</p><p>Most of us on this forum are dealing with adult children that have issues and refuse to seek help. It hurts so very much to see your child on a path we know is not good for them, and there is nothing we can do about it.</p><p></p><p>As harsh as your mother's words may have sounded to your ears, she is correct. Other than nag your hands are tied and they don't really listen to you nag either lol! I could actually see my son's eyes glaze over as I tired to 'talk some sense into him' and he tuned me out completely.</p><p></p><p>In my part of the USA 18 is the legal age and after that it is all his decision. HOWEVER, my son did threaten suicide and I called the police and they talked to him and he said he was not suicidal. My son fights with his girl friend and cuts himself and threatens suicide.</p><p></p><p>Here, we can "Baker Act" (all states have this but maybe called something else) where they can be held and evaluated if the police feel they are a danger o themselves or others. We can also get court ordered psychiatric treatments. I found out a great deal by calling a suicide hotline and talking to them. Check for them in your area.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to all that have loved ones with problems we can not help them with. I was so worried and concerned over my son it started to affect my health and my other relationships.</p><p></p><p>Reading the posts on this forum (and SA,substance abuse, forum if it applies to your son) will help. Posting helps too, but the main advice all will give you (no one can tell you what to do, they should not anyway as all situations are different) is get therapy for you and take care of you. You are the only person you can control.</p><p></p><p>As I learned to detach from my son's choices I started to feel much better and my health improved. There are so many great books on detachment, enabling, etc. that will help you. Starting a journal to write down my deepest darkest fears helped also.</p><p></p><p>I had to accept my son as he is, and also face the fact that one day my son may actually succeed with his threats. That does not mean I agree with his life style and I have set boundaries. I still love my son, but I have a life too, so do you.</p><p></p><p>I also said if anyone would have told me my only son would go down this path I never would have believed them, not in a million years.</p><p>(((hugs and blessings)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 630537, member: 13558"] htiredandworried, Most of us on this forum are dealing with adult children that have issues and refuse to seek help. It hurts so very much to see your child on a path we know is not good for them, and there is nothing we can do about it. As harsh as your mother's words may have sounded to your ears, she is correct. Other than nag your hands are tied and they don't really listen to you nag either lol! I could actually see my son's eyes glaze over as I tired to 'talk some sense into him' and he tuned me out completely. In my part of the USA 18 is the legal age and after that it is all his decision. HOWEVER, my son did threaten suicide and I called the police and they talked to him and he said he was not suicidal. My son fights with his girl friend and cuts himself and threatens suicide. Here, we can "Baker Act" (all states have this but maybe called something else) where they can be held and evaluated if the police feel they are a danger o themselves or others. We can also get court ordered psychiatric treatments. I found out a great deal by calling a suicide hotline and talking to them. Check for them in your area. My heart goes out to all that have loved ones with problems we can not help them with. I was so worried and concerned over my son it started to affect my health and my other relationships. Reading the posts on this forum (and SA,substance abuse, forum if it applies to your son) will help. Posting helps too, but the main advice all will give you (no one can tell you what to do, they should not anyway as all situations are different) is get therapy for you and take care of you. You are the only person you can control. As I learned to detach from my son's choices I started to feel much better and my health improved. There are so many great books on detachment, enabling, etc. that will help you. Starting a journal to write down my deepest darkest fears helped also. I had to accept my son as he is, and also face the fact that one day my son may actually succeed with his threats. That does not mean I agree with his life style and I have set boundaries. I still love my son, but I have a life too, so do you. I also said if anyone would have told me my only son would go down this path I never would have believed them, not in a million years. (((hugs and blessings))) [/QUOTE]
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