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<blockquote data-quote="UphillClimbMom" data-source="post: 765563" data-attributes="member: 33473"><p>I have 2 kids, daughter, 33 and son,23. The son is the one I am struggling with *BUT* between the ages of 20 and 27, I had very little contact if any with my daughter, she was angry, silent, etc.&nbsp; The way I coped was pouring myself into my life that didn't have to do with my kids, so marriage, work, hobbies. I sent a text or left a voicemail about every 6 months and kept sending birthday and Christmas gifts, nothing big, maybe a $50 gift card, to keep the communication lines open. We never addressed the issue directly but one time she answered my text and we tentatively built a new relationship. It had most to do with me not trying to hard, it had been texting with no reply several times a week and calling, calling, calling. I quit that, scaled back *AND* she matured. We have a decent relationship now, I see her a couple times a month. Definitely, take this all with a grain of salt and Your Mileage May Very and she is the non-criminal, only mildly mentally ill, &quot;normal&quot;, neuro-typical offspring. I am sure this is totally different when dealing with your difficult-er adult children.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="UphillClimbMom, post: 765563, member: 33473"] I have 2 kids, daughter, 33 and son,23. The son is the one I am struggling with *BUT* between the ages of 20 and 27, I had very little contact if any with my daughter, she was angry, silent, etc. The way I coped was pouring myself into my life that didn't have to do with my kids, so marriage, work, hobbies. I sent a text or left a voicemail about every 6 months and kept sending birthday and Christmas gifts, nothing big, maybe a $50 gift card, to keep the communication lines open. We never addressed the issue directly but one time she answered my text and we tentatively built a new relationship. It had most to do with me not trying to hard, it had been texting with no reply several times a week and calling, calling, calling. I quit that, scaled back *AND* she matured. We have a decent relationship now, I see her a couple times a month. Definitely, take this all with a grain of salt and Your Mileage May Very and she is the non-criminal, only mildly mentally ill, "normal", neuro-typical offspring. I am sure this is totally different when dealing with your difficult-er adult children. [/QUOTE]

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