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How do you deal with your difficult child's insults, etc?
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 492696" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks Buddy. For the first time last night I felt really scared of J - we were in the car driving home (past his normal bedtime) and he had this stick that he had picked up in the woods. He started brandishing it at me and for a moment I could see him really hitting me or the dog... But then he put it down when I told him (in a very sharp tone of voice). </p><p>It's interesting you talk about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Is that part of what is driving this, I wonder? I can see that I myself still have problems with being very sweet and loving when he is acting up like this because part of me obviously must feel that his behaviour is just unacceptable and he should realise that... Part of me fears that if I indulge him, he will get worse and even more cavalier and dominating. Not saying that that is right, just that the fear is there. </p><p>I am learning though that a tight routine and really watching the amount of stimulation he has are important in terms of keeping his behaviour within normal bounds...</p><p>Just read your post, Steely. Yes, I have (believe it or not <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />) read "The Explosive Child". But I need to re-read it... As for consequences. Oh dear, that opens a can of worms. I should have these but I don't, never have. They just don't work with J in the sense that he has such a total, distressing meltdown if I attempt them and he simply will not accept the consequence so that the whole thing rapidly descends into chaotic farce. Am I supposed to ride through all the frenzy??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 492696, member: 11227"] Thanks Buddy. For the first time last night I felt really scared of J - we were in the car driving home (past his normal bedtime) and he had this stick that he had picked up in the woods. He started brandishing it at me and for a moment I could see him really hitting me or the dog... But then he put it down when I told him (in a very sharp tone of voice). It's interesting you talk about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Is that part of what is driving this, I wonder? I can see that I myself still have problems with being very sweet and loving when he is acting up like this because part of me obviously must feel that his behaviour is just unacceptable and he should realise that... Part of me fears that if I indulge him, he will get worse and even more cavalier and dominating. Not saying that that is right, just that the fear is there. I am learning though that a tight routine and really watching the amount of stimulation he has are important in terms of keeping his behaviour within normal bounds... Just read your post, Steely. Yes, I have (believe it or not :)) read "The Explosive Child". But I need to re-read it... As for consequences. Oh dear, that opens a can of worms. I should have these but I don't, never have. They just don't work with J in the sense that he has such a total, distressing meltdown if I attempt them and he simply will not accept the consequence so that the whole thing rapidly descends into chaotic farce. Am I supposed to ride through all the frenzy?? [/QUOTE]
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