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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 638053" data-attributes="member: 1550">dstc_ is right. In fact, it is even worse than that. 36, when he was far from 36, used to say he was going to kill himself all the time. I'd take him to ER when he got that way and they'd say, &quot;Well, son, are you suicidal now?&quot;He'd say, &quot;No&quot; because he didn't want to get admitted an d was calm by then.They'd ask, &quot;Do you feel like hurting anyone else?&quot;He'd predictably shake his head.&quot;No.&quot;Home he'd go, sometimes to call up in hysterics threatening to kill himself again that night. Another trip to ER, another trip home. When asked why he did that, he said, &quot;I really do feel that way, but I'm afraid of the hospital.&quot;He is about twenty years older now. He lives far away. I call 911. But I agree with dstc_...I would not threaten the kids with that because they will find out that it isn't going to happen and difficult child kids keep score. They will see this as a win for them and another, &quot;Mommy can't do anything.&quot; I like the cliche &quot;Actions speak louder than words.&quot; If you have a plan, do it without talking it over with them. Then they'll see that you do have some power over them, at least until they are eighteen.Hugs again. You are a real trooper. You take a lickin' and keep on tickin' (as the very old retro Timex commercials say). You are a Warrior Mom of the finest.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 638053, member: 1550"] dstc_ is right. In fact, it is even worse than that. 36, when he was far from 36, used to say he was going to kill himself all the time. I'd take him to ER when he got that way and they'd say, "Well, son, are you suicidal now?" He'd say, "No" because he didn't want to get admitted an d was calm by then. They'd ask, "Do you feel like hurting anyone else?" He'd predictably shake his head."No." Home he'd go, sometimes to call up in hysterics threatening to kill himself again that night. Another trip to ER, another trip home. When asked why he did that, he said, "I really do feel that way, but I'm afraid of the hospital." He is about twenty years older now. He lives far away. I call 911. But I agree with dstc_...I would not threaten the kids with that because they will find out that it isn't going to happen and difficult child kids keep score. They will see this as a win for them and another, "Mommy can't do anything." I like the cliche "Actions speak louder than words." If you have a plan, do it without talking it over with them. Then they'll see that you do have some power over them, at least until they are eighteen. Hugs again. You are a real trooper. You take a lickin' and keep on tickin' (as the very old retro Timex commercials say). You are a Warrior Mom of the finest. [/QUOTE]

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