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How much did you cry? And do you think they cried over you?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 667385" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>That did not happen to me. Because I would not go near my sister or talk to her. My mother was supportive.</p><p></p><p>But now I suspect she talked to my sister behind my back. Because as her mind slipped she forgot it was me, and said something like "she does everything for him...and lets him get away with everything...." I asked M about it at the time and he said to forget it. </p><p></p><p>As I see it this minute, what happened to me when my son began to have a hard time, was that I fell back into the old FOO. I had already been distanced from them for many years. While I had a relationship with my mother it was warm but distant and careful and limited. I always knew my FOO was a vipers' nest. That is the difference between you, Cedar and Serenity. Both of you tried much longer than did I. Believed that you should or could make relationship with them. And because you could not, felt it to be your fault.</p><p></p><p>I felt everything was my fault. But it was from 50 or 60 years ago.</p><p></p><p>In my case, it was the brokenness that they had long ago caused me.</p><p>I do not see it this way. I think they are less than we wished. I think they would have been happy with us...if we accepted them. Predatory.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 667385, member: 18958"] That did not happen to me. Because I would not go near my sister or talk to her. My mother was supportive. But now I suspect she talked to my sister behind my back. Because as her mind slipped she forgot it was me, and said something like "she does everything for him...and lets him get away with everything...." I asked M about it at the time and he said to forget it. As I see it this minute, what happened to me when my son began to have a hard time, was that I fell back into the old FOO. I had already been distanced from them for many years. While I had a relationship with my mother it was warm but distant and careful and limited. I always knew my FOO was a vipers' nest. That is the difference between you, Cedar and Serenity. Both of you tried much longer than did I. Believed that you should or could make relationship with them. And because you could not, felt it to be your fault. I felt everything was my fault. But it was from 50 or 60 years ago. In my case, it was the brokenness that they had long ago caused me. I do not see it this way. I think they are less than we wished. I think they would have been happy with us...if we accepted them. Predatory. [/QUOTE]
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