My DS gets annoyed if I work until 12am and sleep in and miss his calls when he drives to work. Or if I have to talk to or see my other grown kids, or have appointments or run chores. He doesnt tell me not to have a life, but he does wish I would save long blocks of time for him. I text mostly...dont talk much on the phone except for him and he has a job where he is on his own time so he can take 1 1/2 hours for lunch. When he tells me something it is in extreme detail. If I have time I try to give him the time because I love him. I always will. But I dont have enough hours in the day for him...truly. And he is 39.
I think it would be more tolerable if we talked about fun things and others or outside events, but he talks about himself and his ex and his eternal court battle. Sometimes I can do it. Sometimes I feel like covering my ears, hearing the same thing over and over again with no change of thought or action on his part.
But I listen. I feel his fear and pain. I know deep inside he wont change, but I try to be supportive. But these days it is only when I am in the right mood for it.
Susie, I feel ya!
