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How to be a parent to an addict that is 32 yrs old???
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 685036" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Hello Billy Bob and welcome. I am in a similar situation as my daughter is 30-years-old and also struggles with addiction. She is currently living in a halfway house.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I have had problems walking that thin line between enabling and being supportive. We have worked with a therapist for the last two years to learn to set firm boundaries and it has been really beneficial. Our daughter realizes that she can no longer manipulate us into taking care of her.</p><p></p><p>You are absolutely correct that this is his journey and that there is nothing you can do to make him stay sober. That is what I struggled with for a long time. My therapist helped me see that it is the addict's choice to stay sober or not and that we can't let our daughter's choices hurt us anymore.</p><p></p><p>So you can love your son but set boundaries to protect yourself from his bad choices. You will need help to learn to do that. Have you tried support groups like AlAnon or NarAnon or Families Anonymous? Many of our members find them very helpful. You could also find a therapist to work with you to help you set those boundaries like we did. </p><p></p><p>Keep posting. You will find a lot of support in the Substance Abuse forum since we have all walked in your shoes.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 685036, member: 1967"] Hello Billy Bob and welcome. I am in a similar situation as my daughter is 30-years-old and also struggles with addiction. She is currently living in a halfway house. My husband and I have had problems walking that thin line between enabling and being supportive. We have worked with a therapist for the last two years to learn to set firm boundaries and it has been really beneficial. Our daughter realizes that she can no longer manipulate us into taking care of her. You are absolutely correct that this is his journey and that there is nothing you can do to make him stay sober. That is what I struggled with for a long time. My therapist helped me see that it is the addict's choice to stay sober or not and that we can't let our daughter's choices hurt us anymore. So you can love your son but set boundaries to protect yourself from his bad choices. You will need help to learn to do that. Have you tried support groups like AlAnon or NarAnon or Families Anonymous? Many of our members find them very helpful. You could also find a therapist to work with you to help you set those boundaries like we did. Keep posting. You will find a lot of support in the Substance Abuse forum since we have all walked in your shoes. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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