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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 632927" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Okay everyone, now let's see whether I can make this phone work well enough to finish my post.</p><p></p><p>:0)</p><p></p><p>Now, where was I?</p><p></p><p>I believe I said something about each of the parents here on the site seeming to be people who had overcome some pretty substantial obstacles in their lives. </p><p></p><p>We don't seem to be the kind to give up or let something go until we understand and make whatever it was as good as it's going to get. (Witness myself, determinedly working away on this stupid phone. ) The problem is that those same characteristics which have served us so well in every other aspect of our lives are doing us in where our much loved but impossible to parent difficult child kids are concerned. For everyone one of us here, the source of frustration, the thing that is driving us round the bend, is not necessarily the situations we find ourselves in. Heartbreaking as they are, we all seem to have behaved pretty competently all of our lives. When bad things happen, I would guess that we were the ones others tended to turn to, to set things right.</p><p></p><p>The thing driving us, and I hear it ringing away in your posts, EOOR, is that nothing, but nothing, works the way It should with difficult child kids.</p><p></p><p>We each took the bull right by the horns when things began to go wrong for our kids. We searched our souls, reviewed parenting techniques and learned new ones. We took full responsibility and then some.</p><p></p><p>But though those techniques work beautifully with most kids (and in almost every situation we have ever dealt with), tried and true parenting</p><p>techniques don't work with our difficult child kids. </p><p></p><p>More later. </p><p></p><p>Hit the wrong button, again. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 632927, member: 17461"] Okay everyone, now let's see whether I can make this phone work well enough to finish my post. :0) Now, where was I? I believe I said something about each of the parents here on the site seeming to be people who had overcome some pretty substantial obstacles in their lives. We don't seem to be the kind to give up or let something go until we understand and make whatever it was as good as it's going to get. (Witness myself, determinedly working away on this stupid phone. ) The problem is that those same characteristics which have served us so well in every other aspect of our lives are doing us in where our much loved but impossible to parent difficult child kids are concerned. For everyone one of us here, the source of frustration, the thing that is driving us round the bend, is not necessarily the situations we find ourselves in. Heartbreaking as they are, we all seem to have behaved pretty competently all of our lives. When bad things happen, I would guess that we were the ones others tended to turn to, to set things right. The thing driving us, and I hear it ringing away in your posts, EOOR, is that nothing, but nothing, works the way It should with difficult child kids. We each took the bull right by the horns when things began to go wrong for our kids. We searched our souls, reviewed parenting techniques and learned new ones. We took full responsibility and then some. But though those techniques work beautifully with most kids (and in almost every situation we have ever dealt with), tried and true parenting techniques don't work with our difficult child kids. More later. Hit the wrong button, again. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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