Well I am back. After all of the Al Anon meetings I have come to that point. I can either be right or I can be happy! What a hell of a conclusion. I HAVE TO CHANGE MY LIFE!!!!! Only by letting her by be a screw up and walking away and saying it's not my problem can I be happy?? What other facet of our lives does this logic apply.
I have found a great group and have found comfort in hearing the trials and horror stories of other parents but I am still so far behind the 8 ball in this process that I don't see any light. I find comfort in the readings and sharing but when hit with the revelation of choosing happy or my own values I am at a crossroads.
On top of that the strain on my wife and I is testing our marriage of 38 years. She has fully adopted this "it's not our problem" and is concentrating on the gkids. I am not there and don't know if I will ever be. It put us at a confrontation level that we have never experienced.
Asking me to compromise my values goes against all of what is me. That is what accepting the right or happy argument means to me. I am going to take a break from everyone tomorrow and take a nice drive to get my thoughts somewhere else.
