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How to even talk on the phone with my son....
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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 656707" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>It is often impossible to talk with my son. He becomes angry about so many things - environmental, political, social, economic, etc.</p><p></p><p>I follow this mantra:</p><p></p><p><em>Think twice before saying nothing</em>.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I can change the subject to something 'safe' and am able to speak for a while about mundane things. Most often this is not possible and I know it is best to end the conversation until another day.</p><p></p><p>I completely agree with SWOT that different points of view and different beliefs do not mean mental illness. Many religious beliefs, when considered objectively, are no more bonkers than your son's beliefs.</p><p></p><p>My own son has views about society that, when considered objectively, are true. The world <em>is</em> very full of destruction, evil and corruption. The problem is my son's way of expressing his views and refusal to listen to any other points of view. His method of expressing his views is inappropriate, because it is extreme, it is aggressive, it is like being lectured, not having a 'conversation'. I won't be drawn into such a one-sided situation, so I say nothing.</p><p></p><p>When I was a little girl I used to be very frightened of 'street preachers'. They would appear, with their pamphlets, ranting about Hell and sin and being 'saved by the lord'. I used to hide behind my mother and shake with fear. Was this their intention? I'm sure it wasn't. But their approach was completely wrong. It was negative and aggressive and arrogant and forceful. My son reminds me of these crazy street preachers sometimes. He tries to tell me about things, and I might be interested if he was calm and measured and logical, but his approach is completely wrong. So I do not engage with him. I follow my mantra.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 656707, member: 17650"] It is often impossible to talk with my son. He becomes angry about so many things - environmental, political, social, economic, etc. I follow this mantra: [I]Think twice before saying nothing[/I]. Sometimes I can change the subject to something 'safe' and am able to speak for a while about mundane things. Most often this is not possible and I know it is best to end the conversation until another day. I completely agree with SWOT that different points of view and different beliefs do not mean mental illness. Many religious beliefs, when considered objectively, are no more bonkers than your son's beliefs. My own son has views about society that, when considered objectively, are true. The world [I]is[/I] very full of destruction, evil and corruption. The problem is my son's way of expressing his views and refusal to listen to any other points of view. His method of expressing his views is inappropriate, because it is extreme, it is aggressive, it is like being lectured, not having a 'conversation'. I won't be drawn into such a one-sided situation, so I say nothing. When I was a little girl I used to be very frightened of 'street preachers'. They would appear, with their pamphlets, ranting about Hell and sin and being 'saved by the lord'. I used to hide behind my mother and shake with fear. Was this their intention? I'm sure it wasn't. But their approach was completely wrong. It was negative and aggressive and arrogant and forceful. My son reminds me of these crazy street preachers sometimes. He tries to tell me about things, and I might be interested if he was calm and measured and logical, but his approach is completely wrong. So I do not engage with him. I follow my mantra. [/QUOTE]
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