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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 656717" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lucy, that's what I meant, but you said it better. When it comes to kooky (in our opinion) yet deeply ingrained beliefs by another person...be it political, religious, or conspiracy theories...why even discuss it. The two of you are not going to change your minds and it is upsetting for us as parents to deal with some of our Difficult Child's beliefs. That's why I think the best responses are to either say, "Well, then let's agree to disagree" and move on to a neutral topic or, if they are persistent in trying to talk you into their "crazy," just say, "Oh! I forgot! Marge is here for lunch. Got to go." And then go.</p><p></p><p>I think it is best not to comment on your own opinion of what you feel is crazy and I can't see it as a mental illness. People who read enough stuff (and the internet encourages this) about how our government is destroying us and will show up at our doorstep any moment to put us in Concentration CAmps (yes, I've heard this conspiracy theory on my politics channel) are going to stick to listening to only people who agree with them and that ingrains this and fuelds this paranoia. We can not change their destructive or crazy sounding mindset anymore than they can make us believe it. And they have many others who agree with their paranoid thinking so they are validated. We can't stop that. What we can do is redirect the conversation or end it. And we can do it without telling them they are nuts or ending on an angry note.</p><p></p><p>It's the calmest way, and also the healthiest for us, to refuse to talk about politics, the world, whatever with a person who can not hold a rational conversation. "I have to go" is my normal way of dealing with people who try to get me to believe in some political or religious stuff that I am really not wanting to hear.</p><p></p><p>Lucy, where we used to live we had very nice neighbors next door but they were also EXTREMELY passionate about their religion, so much so that they felt the need to talk us into going to services with them. We quickly learned to beeline for cover when they came outside with their pamphlets and smiles. Nobody in my opinion has a right to try to get us to think like they think. But I also don't think we have a right to invalidate them by saying we think they are crazy. Best to just avoid the confrontation.</p><p></p><p>"Less is more." I believe this more and more each day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 656717, member: 1550"] Lucy, that's what I meant, but you said it better. When it comes to kooky (in our opinion) yet deeply ingrained beliefs by another person...be it political, religious, or conspiracy theories...why even discuss it. The two of you are not going to change your minds and it is upsetting for us as parents to deal with some of our Difficult Child's beliefs. That's why I think the best responses are to either say, "Well, then let's agree to disagree" and move on to a neutral topic or, if they are persistent in trying to talk you into their "crazy," just say, "Oh! I forgot! Marge is here for lunch. Got to go." And then go. I think it is best not to comment on your own opinion of what you feel is crazy and I can't see it as a mental illness. People who read enough stuff (and the internet encourages this) about how our government is destroying us and will show up at our doorstep any moment to put us in Concentration CAmps (yes, I've heard this conspiracy theory on my politics channel) are going to stick to listening to only people who agree with them and that ingrains this and fuelds this paranoia. We can not change their destructive or crazy sounding mindset anymore than they can make us believe it. And they have many others who agree with their paranoid thinking so they are validated. We can't stop that. What we can do is redirect the conversation or end it. And we can do it without telling them they are nuts or ending on an angry note. It's the calmest way, and also the healthiest for us, to refuse to talk about politics, the world, whatever with a person who can not hold a rational conversation. "I have to go" is my normal way of dealing with people who try to get me to believe in some political or religious stuff that I am really not wanting to hear. Lucy, where we used to live we had very nice neighbors next door but they were also EXTREMELY passionate about their religion, so much so that they felt the need to talk us into going to services with them. We quickly learned to beeline for cover when they came outside with their pamphlets and smiles. Nobody in my opinion has a right to try to get us to think like they think. But I also don't think we have a right to invalidate them by saying we think they are crazy. Best to just avoid the confrontation. "Less is more." I believe this more and more each day. [/QUOTE]
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