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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 102332" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>One last thought to share...I promise it will be the "last", LOL!</p><p></p><p>If the Dad and his SO have just taken over the parenting roles it</p><p>is more than remotely possible that they are Tired, Frustrated,</p><p>Horney, Broke etc. etc. At some point if communications can be</p><p>remain open, they may WELCOME the opportunity to take a break and</p><p>send Sara to visit you.</p><p></p><p>The two major factors to remember are (1) selfish needs and (2)</p><p>money. If you phrase things so that it is sympathetic to how</p><p>hard their life may be and how big an adjustment it must be for</p><p>them (don't mention Sara's adjustment because that doesn't fly)</p><p>to have to parent 24/7 etc. etc. you will probably get Sara</p><p>sooner than you would believe. If they are receiving food stamps</p><p>etc. etc. because they have Sara.....eventually they will be ready to give up the kid so long as they get to keep the money and save face.</p><p></p><p>It's a psychological game of chess with the child as the prize.</p><p>I know it well. I've played it for decades. I'm not so sure that I "have won" but the children have been the winners. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 102332, member: 35"] One last thought to share...I promise it will be the "last", LOL! If the Dad and his SO have just taken over the parenting roles it is more than remotely possible that they are Tired, Frustrated, Horney, Broke etc. etc. At some point if communications can be remain open, they may WELCOME the opportunity to take a break and send Sara to visit you. The two major factors to remember are (1) selfish needs and (2) money. If you phrase things so that it is sympathetic to how hard their life may be and how big an adjustment it must be for them (don't mention Sara's adjustment because that doesn't fly) to have to parent 24/7 etc. etc. you will probably get Sara sooner than you would believe. If they are receiving food stamps etc. etc. because they have Sara.....eventually they will be ready to give up the kid so long as they get to keep the money and save face. It's a psychological game of chess with the child as the prize. I know it well. I've played it for decades. I'm not so sure that I "have won" but the children have been the winners. DDD [/QUOTE]
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