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<blockquote data-quote="moonglow" data-source="post: 393056" data-attributes="member: 256"><p>Ok I see thanks for explaining. I am not sure but I think the Asperger's was a recent diagnosis. Like I said for most of his life they just thought he had a severe learning disability and ADHD. He was just on medications for that too. But no matter how much help he got in school he just fell further and further behind. I think if he had been property diagnosis correctly to start with maybe things would have turned out much better for him. But he just wouldn't even try to do his homework or school work and I think people really thought for a long time it wasn't doing it because he just didn't want to learn... no one realized the extent of his problems and it was until I think his last few years of school that my sister found out more about his bimom and about her doing drugs, drinking and even sexually abusing him...and she was only 15! Makes you wonder what she had been through herself..<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p> So he was put in a foster home where he was seriously neglected. Had constant ear infection that the foster mom would never finish giving him his antibiotics so he was practically deaf when my sister got him at age two. He talked like a deaf person for many, many years too. She got him in a early ed type of place to help him with his speech and learning delays. They really thought that was all there was too it and he would be fine. </p><p></p><p>Anyway long story short as he hit his teen years and got more and more defiant it was all my sister could do to just manage having a somewhat peaceful home and I don't think she had the time or energy to look into any support groups...probably didn't even think of it. So the answer to that is no. She hasn't looked into Asperger's support groups and we haven't either. Our main goal has been to get him back on medications because he is so manic right now. </p><p></p><p>My sister, realizing he was probably not going to graduate from high school she mostly focused on teaching him life skills. There has been too much damage in that relationship now that she really wants nothing to do with him. I can't say I blame her. I also think she was emotionally drained too with the two oldest ones as bad as Kenny..and getting them out on their own. Mom thinks Kenny is the worse of the three, but I disagree. Doesn't matter really though. </p><p></p><p>My mom's husband is the one that has mostly been dealing with him now and its just been consuming him. He is also sick ..we both have this head/chest cold stuff going around. His is worse and he finally went to the dr to get on antibiotics for it yesterday. But he is exhausted...disgusted and just at his wits end with Kenny right now. He is disgusted with all the lying Kenny is doing...among other things. Kenny did something when he stayed with them that few days after getting out of jail that is ...well its was just vile and nasty and I don't know how my mom's husband didn't smack him upside the head. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> He is extremely difficult to be around and deal with. Kenny needs constantly professional care but he doesn't believe that, nor want it. He wants to be with girls and party and do what he wants to do without having to follow any rules. Rich is ready to come down hard on him too...</p><p></p><p>We need a professional...someone that is experienced with people like Kenny to tell us what is available and what can or cannot be done and I think that is start if we can get him to his appointment on Friday. Part of the problem is the town we live in isn't very big and just doesn't have alot of support for the mentally ill. The city where Kenny was living has more but Kenny has pretty much burned his bridges there. No one wants to work with him. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p>Anyway...sorry for the ramble..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="moonglow, post: 393056, member: 256"] Ok I see thanks for explaining. I am not sure but I think the Asperger's was a recent diagnosis. Like I said for most of his life they just thought he had a severe learning disability and ADHD. He was just on medications for that too. But no matter how much help he got in school he just fell further and further behind. I think if he had been property diagnosis correctly to start with maybe things would have turned out much better for him. But he just wouldn't even try to do his homework or school work and I think people really thought for a long time it wasn't doing it because he just didn't want to learn... no one realized the extent of his problems and it was until I think his last few years of school that my sister found out more about his bimom and about her doing drugs, drinking and even sexually abusing him...and she was only 15! Makes you wonder what she had been through herself..:( So he was put in a foster home where he was seriously neglected. Had constant ear infection that the foster mom would never finish giving him his antibiotics so he was practically deaf when my sister got him at age two. He talked like a deaf person for many, many years too. She got him in a early ed type of place to help him with his speech and learning delays. They really thought that was all there was too it and he would be fine. Anyway long story short as he hit his teen years and got more and more defiant it was all my sister could do to just manage having a somewhat peaceful home and I don't think she had the time or energy to look into any support groups...probably didn't even think of it. So the answer to that is no. She hasn't looked into Asperger's support groups and we haven't either. Our main goal has been to get him back on medications because he is so manic right now. My sister, realizing he was probably not going to graduate from high school she mostly focused on teaching him life skills. There has been too much damage in that relationship now that she really wants nothing to do with him. I can't say I blame her. I also think she was emotionally drained too with the two oldest ones as bad as Kenny..and getting them out on their own. Mom thinks Kenny is the worse of the three, but I disagree. Doesn't matter really though. My mom's husband is the one that has mostly been dealing with him now and its just been consuming him. He is also sick ..we both have this head/chest cold stuff going around. His is worse and he finally went to the dr to get on antibiotics for it yesterday. But he is exhausted...disgusted and just at his wits end with Kenny right now. He is disgusted with all the lying Kenny is doing...among other things. Kenny did something when he stayed with them that few days after getting out of jail that is ...well its was just vile and nasty and I don't know how my mom's husband didn't smack him upside the head. :( He is extremely difficult to be around and deal with. Kenny needs constantly professional care but he doesn't believe that, nor want it. He wants to be with girls and party and do what he wants to do without having to follow any rules. Rich is ready to come down hard on him too... We need a professional...someone that is experienced with people like Kenny to tell us what is available and what can or cannot be done and I think that is start if we can get him to his appointment on Friday. Part of the problem is the town we live in isn't very big and just doesn't have alot of support for the mentally ill. The city where Kenny was living has more but Kenny has pretty much burned his bridges there. No one wants to work with him. :( Anyway...sorry for the ramble.. [/QUOTE]
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