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<blockquote data-quote="Aching Heart" data-source="post: 764096" data-attributes="member: 24614"><p>Hi ihurtz! So sorry to read about your problems. I have been 'no contact' from my adult daughter for 4 years now and I know the guilt you are feeling. But, as my doctor said to me when I broke down and told her about it, our adult children are not children - they are adults and as such are no longer our responsibility. We may have this instinct to 'support' them but if they do not wish to help themselves and just keep mentally and verbally abusing us, the toxicity can all too often take its toll on our own mental health and subsequently on our physical health too. I wrote out a list of what I missed about her behaviour and what I did not miss about it and the latter far exceeded the former. I mourn the little girl I lost but I do not mourn the adult she became!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Aching Heart, post: 764096, member: 24614"] Hi ihurtz! So sorry to read about your problems. I have been 'no contact' from my adult daughter for 4 years now and I know the guilt you are feeling. But, as my doctor said to me when I broke down and told her about it, our adult children are not children - they are adults and as such are no longer our responsibility. We may have this instinct to 'support' them but if they do not wish to help themselves and just keep mentally and verbally abusing us, the toxicity can all too often take its toll on our own mental health and subsequently on our physical health too. I wrote out a list of what I missed about her behaviour and what I did not miss about it and the latter far exceeded the former. I mourn the little girl I lost but I do not mourn the adult she became! [/QUOTE]
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