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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 764113" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hello Ithurtz,</p><p>I am so sorry for your need to be here, though it is a good place to be for folks to be able to share their stories and receive kindness and thoughts from people who are in various stages along this journey.</p><p>I think most of us have been blamed by our wayward adult kids for their bad choices. It is the perfect alibi for them to excuse their own behaviors and keep us stuck in a pattern of feeling guilty and desperate. We are more easily manipulated in this state of mind.</p><p></p><p>Setting boundaries is super important for your sanity. It also lets your son know that you will put your foot down when it comes to disrespect or abuse. </p><p></p><p>Less is more. If your words are not getting through to him, show him by action. Let him know you won’t tolerate disrespect and hang up the phone.</p><p></p><p>I have read up on this but not experienced it. My two would swear up and down that they only smoked pot, but it turns out that they were hooked on meth. I’m not saying that is your sons problem, but many parents here have reported the same, “Its just pot.” I hope that is the case for your son that it is “just pot”. I know that presents with issues as well, who knows nowadays the amount of thc, or if it is laced with other substances?</p><p>I, too wonder if my daughters will be able to recoup their mental capacity if they decide to choose sobriety. But, I have no control over anything in regards to that. I found that with years of dealing with the hurt and sadness of my adult children entrenched in the rabbit hole, it is just too much for me to bear. I find respite in giving them to God and praying that he watch over them. I still have to work hard at focusing on what I can control, my own thoughts, emotions and reactions to whatever their choices are.</p><p>I am sorry for your aching heart and hope that you are able to find peace. I know it is hard, but you are so worth the effort. </p><p>(((hugs)))</p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 764113, member: 19522"] Hello Ithurtz, I am so sorry for your need to be here, though it is a good place to be for folks to be able to share their stories and receive kindness and thoughts from people who are in various stages along this journey. I think most of us have been blamed by our wayward adult kids for their bad choices. It is the perfect alibi for them to excuse their own behaviors and keep us stuck in a pattern of feeling guilty and desperate. We are more easily manipulated in this state of mind. Setting boundaries is super important for your sanity. It also lets your son know that you will put your foot down when it comes to disrespect or abuse. Less is more. If your words are not getting through to him, show him by action. Let him know you won’t tolerate disrespect and hang up the phone. I have read up on this but not experienced it. My two would swear up and down that they only smoked pot, but it turns out that they were hooked on meth. I’m not saying that is your sons problem, but many parents here have reported the same, “Its just pot.” I hope that is the case for your son that it is “just pot”. I know that presents with issues as well, who knows nowadays the amount of thc, or if it is laced with other substances? I, too wonder if my daughters will be able to recoup their mental capacity if they decide to choose sobriety. But, I have no control over anything in regards to that. I found that with years of dealing with the hurt and sadness of my adult children entrenched in the rabbit hole, it is just too much for me to bear. I find respite in giving them to God and praying that he watch over them. I still have to work hard at focusing on what I can control, my own thoughts, emotions and reactions to whatever their choices are. I am sorry for your aching heart and hope that you are able to find peace. I know it is hard, but you are so worth the effort. (((hugs))) Leaf [/QUOTE]
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