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<blockquote data-quote="Mirabelle" data-source="post: 763712" data-attributes="member: 28712"><p>Thank you Nomad. You speak of my son needing to make a personal decision for change; that he can't, won't, some combo of both, truly make the great personal effort it requires for positive change. And this is absolutely correct, and at the heart of why I think this is a losing battle. He is inherently lazy, with the attention span of a gnat. I don't say this to insult him, and of course bipolar and a possible personality disorder have a big part to play. I think there is a part of him that wants more for himself and his family, that wants to do right. When it comes right down to it he has a big heart like his Dad. But I think the part I speak of is a small part. It gets overrun easily by all the negative - laziness, manipulation, entitlement, lack of motivation, the pathological need for instant gratification. It will indeed take a great personal effort to change, and right now I frankly don't think he has that in him.</p><p></p><p>He is presently in detox and has committed to a lengthy rehab after that. I don't expect much, but I am thankful that for the here and now he is safe and not in a position to do any more damage to himself.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mirabelle, post: 763712, member: 28712"] Thank you Nomad. You speak of my son needing to make a personal decision for change; that he can't, won't, some combo of both, truly make the great personal effort it requires for positive change. And this is absolutely correct, and at the heart of why I think this is a losing battle. He is inherently lazy, with the attention span of a gnat. I don't say this to insult him, and of course bipolar and a possible personality disorder have a big part to play. I think there is a part of him that wants more for himself and his family, that wants to do right. When it comes right down to it he has a big heart like his Dad. But I think the part I speak of is a small part. It gets overrun easily by all the negative - laziness, manipulation, entitlement, lack of motivation, the pathological need for instant gratification. It will indeed take a great personal effort to change, and right now I frankly don't think he has that in him. He is presently in detox and has committed to a lengthy rehab after that. I don't expect much, but I am thankful that for the here and now he is safe and not in a position to do any more damage to himself. Hugs to you. :):) [/QUOTE]
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