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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 654815" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thank you, Copa. I did get help. I voluntarily admitted myself to a very good teaching hospital to find out why I would get so depressed. I do have a depression problem (fortunately my current medications have helped me for decades). I just knew I didn't want to be miserable forever and I wanted to get better and I knew I had some sort of mental health issue that needed help. If I had not gone for help or had used substances, even alcohol, it would have messed me up beyond being able to live the life I live today. I was smart about some things, such as knowing something was wrong so that it was best not to use drugs. I also did not have premarital sex. I am about the only person in my age bracket I know of who didn't. I knew that would mess me up too and I also wanted to be good. In the forefront was a rebellious, angry young woman, but in the back of my mind I just wanted to be good. I never broke the law or made my situation worse, except for not seeing that I'd have been better off leaving FOO right then and there.</p><p></p><p>I was vulnerable. I did have courage. I did not speak out at that young age though. At that age, I still thought my mother was a wonderful mother who just treated me like dirt because I deserved it. Undoing that thinking took a lot of time. Imagine a kid or young adult who thinks she deserves to be treated badly? When my first husband treated me badly (he namecalled a lot) I thought it was normal and that he was right about me. When I started going to Codependents Anonymous Meetings and got healthier, he was very threatened and I eventually filed for divorce. My three kids paid the price for that I sometimes think. At any rate, that's what I did because my ex was not going to change and I had.</p><p></p><p>Since marrying my husband of today my life has been so different. I learned what it's like to live with people who love and respect you. I owe it to him. We adopted two of the greatest kids on God's green earth and along with Bart a nd Princess and the grands, holidays are fun and life is good. It did not always go smoothly with the kids. You all know that. But it's good now and it has always been good between my husband, myself, and the two kids we adopted together. I think kids can tell when two people are in love and are going to stay together. I think it makes a difference in their security level. </p><p></p><p>Thanks again for your generosity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 654815, member: 1550"] Thank you, Copa. I did get help. I voluntarily admitted myself to a very good teaching hospital to find out why I would get so depressed. I do have a depression problem (fortunately my current medications have helped me for decades). I just knew I didn't want to be miserable forever and I wanted to get better and I knew I had some sort of mental health issue that needed help. If I had not gone for help or had used substances, even alcohol, it would have messed me up beyond being able to live the life I live today. I was smart about some things, such as knowing something was wrong so that it was best not to use drugs. I also did not have premarital sex. I am about the only person in my age bracket I know of who didn't. I knew that would mess me up too and I also wanted to be good. In the forefront was a rebellious, angry young woman, but in the back of my mind I just wanted to be good. I never broke the law or made my situation worse, except for not seeing that I'd have been better off leaving FOO right then and there. I was vulnerable. I did have courage. I did not speak out at that young age though. At that age, I still thought my mother was a wonderful mother who just treated me like dirt because I deserved it. Undoing that thinking took a lot of time. Imagine a kid or young adult who thinks she deserves to be treated badly? When my first husband treated me badly (he namecalled a lot) I thought it was normal and that he was right about me. When I started going to Codependents Anonymous Meetings and got healthier, he was very threatened and I eventually filed for divorce. My three kids paid the price for that I sometimes think. At any rate, that's what I did because my ex was not going to change and I had. Since marrying my husband of today my life has been so different. I learned what it's like to live with people who love and respect you. I owe it to him. We adopted two of the greatest kids on God's green earth and along with Bart a nd Princess and the grands, holidays are fun and life is good. It did not always go smoothly with the kids. You all know that. But it's good now and it has always been good between my husband, myself, and the two kids we adopted together. I think kids can tell when two people are in love and are going to stay together. I think it makes a difference in their security level. Thanks again for your generosity. [/QUOTE]
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